Help ...I don't want to name my Daughter this name..?

Question

Okay so my husbands Mother passed away last Month and I want to name my Daughter Selina Alexis and we agreed on it. Now last week My Husbands family want's my Daughter to be named after their Mother Elizabeth Megan.. I loved her she was a lovely Lady but I still no on about her name. Ive told my Husband in the nicest way but he just seems to shrug the idea off. My family are against it and say I should go with what i want...I made a little joke saying our next Daughter then and they all just paused and shrugged it off at a family dinner, only My Sister In-Law Alexis (middle name) supports me out of their family. Please help? what should i do?

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Yes . I am Pregnant,
Im due on October 2.

Answer 1

I have to say, I like Eizabeth A LOT better than Selina. Selina sounds like a whining brat. Elizabeth sounds smart and educated. Why not compromise and go with Elizabeth Alexis? Or Megan Alexis?

Answer 2

DOn't discuss it around other family as this will make you and hubby feel pressured. You have to tell him that although you loved his mother very much, you have both already made a decision on the name.
But what about adapting your babys name to Selina Alexis Megan Surname or Selina Eliza Surname (eliza can be a combination of elizabeth and alexis). I suppose your husband is still grieving for his mother and wants to retain some part of her in your daughter. I don't think its a bad idea to put megan into the name but you shouldn't have to give her MIL's name just because she passed away recently.
Selina Alexis is gorgeous BTW but so is Selina Alexis Megan.
Good luck reaching a decision. Its best not to tell anybody what decision you come to so nobody can argue. Just name her when she is born and then they can't do anything about it.

(just realized selina alexis megan intials are SAM! cute pet name for her)

Answer 3

I think the only person who's opinion really matters is your husband's. What does he say? My name is Elizabeth but I do have a niece named Selina so I love them both. What about a compromise. Selina Elizabeth or Alexis Elizabeth or even Selina Megan. I guess my problem would be making up my mind since I love them all.

Answer 4

Elizabeth Alexis sounds nice or Selina Megan

Answer 5

What about Selina Elizabeth, or Selina Megan?

I think Megan is a cute name as well. Megan Alexis, or even Megan Selina is adorable.

I know this is kind of a tough situation, but maybe you could compromise with your husband about the name, (like some of my name suggestions!) so that you both agree on the name. (After all, she will be your husband's also!)


What about her having two middle names?

Selina Elizabeth-Megan
Selina Alexis-Elizabeth

or, shortining Elizabeth to Beth, and having two middle names as well, like Selina Alexis-Beth

I like just Selina Beth too!


I hope I gave you some ideas!
Good luck :)

Answer 6

I don't really understand from your question where your husband stands (with you or your inlaws). However, you and your husband get the decision here - not your inlaws or your family either.

If this is such a huge issue - would you be willing to add a second middle name as a compromise, like Selina Alexis Elizabeth? Then you get your name and the inlaws are happy too. However, I don't think you should be forced into a name you do not want - it's YOUR child.

Answer 7

well, you should mix both names. Like Selina Megan or Elizabeth Alexis. But that doens't sound so great, so what I would do is tell your huzzie that you'll name your first child, and if you have second one (hopefully it's a girl) he can name it. But if that doesn't work then work it out with the family and tell them the good things about the name and why you want it so badly!

Answer 8

We had this problem too...my mother in law passed away three weeks before our son was born. We ended up naming him after her, but only because we truly liked the name. There were other issues, however with middle names and religious names. Bottom line: do what YOU want to do. Although it might mean dealing with a lot of family crap, you don't have to cringe everytime you hear the name someone else chose for your child. YOU carried this baby and you are the parents. You have every right to name the baby what YOU both want. Reason with your husband and you may need to compromise, but at least its a decision you made TOGETHER. Another alternative is to give her his mom's name as the middle name and pick a whole other first name with your hubby so its fresh and new...not too many people go by their middle names anyway..that way its not tainted with all this bs. I know its hard, believe me, but it all settles down. I promise!

Good luck to you and be strong mama bear!

Answer 9

Why not compromise a little bit. Since you both agreed on Selina before his mother passed away - just stick with that, but use Elizabeth as the middle name instead. Selina Elizabeth is a very pretty name. :-)

Answer 10

Hon, this is YOUR child, not theirs. If any one of them have a future daughter, they are free to name her Elizabeth Megan if they choose to.
If you already think of your daughter as "Selina" (beautiful name!) then you may ALWAYS think of her as Selina, even if you actually name her Elizabeth.
How strongly does your husband feel about naming the baby after his mother? Is he just going along with what his family is dictating to him?
It's unfortunate that his mother passed away. But just because you are pregnant doesn't mean that you have to memorialize her by naming your child something that you don't really care for.
I strongly suggest that you go with the name YOU love...after all, it's not your husband's family's child. And btw, I'm very partial to "Alexis", since it's my own daughter's name :)