cheated on me. I forgave him and changed the relationship to pure friendship. He has been my best friend and a family member since. I met a guy last year and was seeing him with caution not to hurt him. Now I am pregnant from my new guy and my partner is devastated. He is old and has no friends and family. I am everything to him. I am very sad because he said this is the end and left today. He said i love you too much to be part of your life with this new guy and the baby. I am also devastated since he wanted a baby as well. It is a strange connection but it has been that way. My new guy is great and understanding with a lot of his own problems. I am just feeling sad and confused and I am sad that I am not feeling happy about this baby. How can we move on when we don't want to? I love my partner in my life but it is not an intimate relationship.
2007-08-07 16:24:25 · 6 answers · asked by Laura 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You and your business partner are friends for a reason. You can not continue to put your life on hold for a friends feelings. He is going to need to put things in perspective. This is his problem not yours. You are merely feeding off of his guilt that you have allowed your self to accept. He faulted the intimacy relationship, and should have been very grateful you were willing to have him in your life after his betrayal to you. He should of all things be supportive for you and be the friend you have been to him and the friend you felt he was to you, not bail because he can't have his way. You deserve to have a life and to move on well before this time. I am proud of you and be strong. If he cares about you deeply he will stop throwing the guilt and appreciate the friendship as well as value it.
2007-08-07 16:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by RT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your business partner sounds like he was still pretty fixated on you -- after twenty years, you're probably a hard habit to break. You probably can't do much about how your partner feels, he's just going to have to come to terms with it somehow. You have the right to have a relationship and a family with a man, but your mistake was not to be open about the relationship in the first place, to allow your partner a chance to get used to the idea.
It's reasonable that you would be sad about your business partner of 20 years walking out -- it's a tough life change, and the fact that it's happening while you are pregnant probably makes you even more emotional about it. You're going to have to respect your partner's decision, becuase it may be the only thing he can do to protect his own ego/emotions/feelings.
Hugs and good luck.
2007-08-07 23:34:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your business partner is just a friend (He cheated on you when you tried to be more than that.) He should be happy for you that you are having a baby and have found a guy to marry. If he can't be happy for you, he isn't a real friend. Tell him to just be your business partner and stay around to be the baby's godfather.
2007-08-07 23:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love the new baby...she deserves this much.
2007-08-07 23:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blaah Blaah Blaah.
My life is so hard.
Someone loves me.
I love someone else.
Poor me.
SHUT UP!
2007-08-07 23:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by pure conscience 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give it time may be he will under stand. and you will to
2007-08-07 23:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋