love is more than making the partner happy?

Question

"at the end of the day he/she makes you happy"....there's gotta be more to it THAN THAT in love right?


i mean soo many couples today in relationships/marriages make each other laugh and have a "good time"...if so why are there are soo many breakups and divorces?

in love, there's more to it than making the significant other happy/satisfied right

Answer 1

Sweet pea the one true thing I have found out about love is that it is unconditional. See when you give love it doesn't matter what the mate or anybody does to hurt you that love never goes away. What people fail to realize is love is not something you shut on and off it last forever. Why relationships and marriages fails they are not ready to fully commit themselves to the others mate needs. Its not all about you its about the relationship with your partner. We as human beings have to always want to satisfy self, and that is normal but when you invest more into someone you love you will get back what you put in. Good luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think that all marriages would do much better if couples try to keep it simple and really work at keeping one another 'happy'.
Often when couples are distracted by all the other things going on and the stresses of life in general they lose that focus on what attracted them to one another in the first place.
When people look for a life partner they do ask themselves that question, 'Will this person make me happy for the rest of my life'.
I think that it is reasonable to say that at the end of the day, after you have had an argument with your spouse if you can honestly say, 'I'm really 'happy' to be in this relationship with this person still' then it really is enough.
Often having a 'good time' and making one another laugh is the life buoy of relationships that are struggling and may head towards a divorce without that.
You are right in saying that there is more to love than 'making one another happy' you also need to support one another through the tough times, communicate well, respect one another, but with all those things in a marriage it goes without saying that there is happiness!
The reason why there are so many break-ups and divorce is just an indication that not enough couples are in fact making one another 'happy' which usually requires committment, honesty, and most of all compromise. Couples bail out of marriages sometimes before they have fully explored all the options of how they might bring the 'happiness' back into their marriage!

Answer 4

One of the biggest reasons marriages tend to break up is a TOTAL lack of communication between the couple.... for some reason, as the years progress, some (NOT ALL) couples lose the ability to really TALK TO EACH OTHER---lives take different directions as people get more responsibilities at work and other responsibilities outside the home and the time that couples actually get together is when so many chores need to be done around the house, or kids need to be transported somewhere and it gets to the point where a couple is no longer acting as one unit---they begin to act as two separate individuals and start drifting apart....this causes a bitterness that ends up starting arguments and these ARGUMENTS which become heated and sometime violent tend to then become the only mode of communication between the couple...once this happens, the marriage become broken and rather then trying to do something to FIX it----couples decide to part company... Love and marriage is a LOT OF WORK and it takes BOTH of the couple to work TOGETHER to make it last...one cannot do it alone...and THAT ends up being what breaks up the marriage. Love gets lost in the shuffle.

Answer 5

Smile. Your understanding of happiness is a very young version of mine... Good time has absolutely nothing to do with the real happiness... Clowns make you laugh, but you don't take them home... or do you? I personally don't keep company with people, who only share my good times. These are flakes in my book.

The thing is: there are no guarantees in love or marriage. People who participate in both take a great risk with their heart and soul. The trick is to accept and love another person just the way he or she is without trying to change them in any way. It has to be done unselfishly: without hesitation ... there is no looking back... Staying in the loving relationship for a lifetime requires always placing another person's needs and wants in front of your own. Not everyone is able to do that. That is why there are so many broken relationships in the world these days.

Answer 6

If you both make the other happy, that's the beginning. There's a whole lot more to come, and you need to fall back on the happiness, trust and love to get you through the hard times.

Thinking about what's in it for me is the fast track to divorce court.

Answer 7

That's because a lot of people get into a relationship thinking one thing and it ends up being something totally different.

Answer 8

There is more. That's what you get caught up in is "more".

Of course all it should take is the presence of your wife/husband to create a good feeling.

When my husband is around, I have a feeling of dread. I usually think about escape routes!

Answer 9

What are you really asking? Are you looking for problems in your relationship? Are you bored? Yes relationships are complex but what is your real concern? Are you unhappy with a nice person next to you and looking for more drama?

Answer 10

yes there is more and it can be hard work . some people get married to soon or before they are ready and only you know when that is . I married my 1st husband at a young age and shortly afterwords I thaught who am I married to !