The man I'm dating just recently got divorced. He knew he made a mistake by marrying her in the first place, and I knew it too, being as I knew her through him. I feel guilty for knowing all along how he felt. It was a complicated situation, and I can't help but feel I am at fault. He is incredibly happier now that he isn't married to her, and we have been dating for awhile. I keep feeling guilty though... what should I do?
2007-08-07 16:10:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it wasn't your fault than you have nothing at all to feel guilty about. Enjoy spending time with him and let it be
2007-08-07 16:14:14 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you shouldn't have married her in the first place, don't feel guilty. He made the decision to divorce her, you didn't. I've learned the hard way you can't make a man do anything but what he wants to do. Be happy to be in love and stop feeling guilty.
2007-08-07 16:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by askmeimightknow 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My cousin used to flirt sms text chat regularly with the man i was in love with when we were friends as i introduced them.Later i came to know after few weeks my cousin was secretly married cheating on her husband(this was another person i had introduced her too)I was same situation should i have not told or should i have told.But in the end things fell into place.I knew what kind of person my cousin was though all along i couldnt tell even when it came out she was secretly married to someone else i had introduced her too.But she showed her true colours in the end so they broke up as friends.You need to know if its meant to be its meant to be if its not its not and this wasnt so they broke up.In the end what she kind of person she was really came out.You must be happy in a way since if you had meddled told anything when they were married it would have caused you problems later on as she would have thought he was cheating on her with you or something else was going on.Your hands are clean and conscience.You two are meant to be so your together.Best of luck.God bless.
2007-08-07 16:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as long as u know he is on the rebound no matter what he says about her.In my experience watching friends divorce over and over they basically will weed out one person to dump all there problems on and then when they feel better off they go like they never knew you.So I wouldnt really hang out with him ,your going to get hurt.He will move on and you will be with him for nothing!
2007-08-07 16:26:07 · answer #4 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uncomplicate the complicated.if you really feel guilty and that makes you almost crazy then follow your mind that's the reason we are created with a mind higher than our hearts. but you're happy with the kind of relationship you have with him then trust your heart because the heart always win over the mind.that's the reason behind the saying "never mind."
2007-08-07 16:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by miaka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't feel guilty. you said you knew that marriage wasn't going to last. if he wouldn't be with you he would be with someone else. try to concentrate on the two of you being happy, if you can't then try talking to him about how you feel.
2007-08-07 16:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing... you are his "rebound" honey. Don't get serious with this guy until he's been divorced a year. Otherwise, you won't last, either. You weren't at fault for his divorce unless you were flirting with him while he was married, though.
2007-08-07 16:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't fool around with him while he was married, or influence him to leave his wife then you shouldn't feel guilty. If you did do these things then that's another story......
2007-08-07 16:18:46 · answer #8 · answered by sunnybrooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋