So last night my friend and I were having a conversation on the phone or whatever.. and then her boyfriend calls and he is on the other line so she goes "My boyfriend is sick and he really wants to talk with me.. i'll call you tomorrow i promise" so I go "Fine it's alright.." but it WAS not ALRIGHT i was just trying to be polite. She didnt even call back today... Ever since he came in the picture I see her doing so many things for him... traveling 2 1/2 hours from her house "after work" to go see him... and she wouldn't do that type of stuff for a best buddy "AFTERWORK". She's changing... and i understand that she is totally "sprung" but she has been changed. I don't want or need a boyfriend right now because I'm concentrated on other things that im doing like school, work, charities i'm busy. so dont u even dare say i need a man too...but it totally sucks that my friend chooses her "boyfriend" over me. I guess i should just leave the love birds alone and continue minding my business!
2007-08-07 16:09:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah, it sucks. I've learned over the years that you expect some form of this from most of your girlfriends when a new boy enters into the picture. They get all twitterpaitted--it's normal. The real eye-opener comes after a little while and the newness wears off a bit. If the girl continues to blow you off for the guy or only comes rushing back after they break up, then you're best keeping her at arm's length. If the girl realizes that a boyfriend isn't a replacement for an awesome girlfriend and wants to balance her time between both of you, then you have a friendship worth keeping.
2007-08-07 16:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by raspberrytart 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I also was not allowed to date at that age, and I found that the best thing to do is expand your friend base. Become better friends with some of the people you have classes with, and then just ask them if they want to hang out. It sounds difficult, but it's really easy and there's nothing wrong with having lots of friends! Girls are really bad about ditching their friends for their boyfriends at that age, but if you have a ton of friends that you could hang out with there will always be a back up person to hang out with. Then you won't be lonely!
2016-04-01 04:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a little jealous cause her attention is diverted. She is still your friend, just think about what he is giving her that you cannot provide and chill out, it's not like she is completely dissing you. Give her space to enjoy the time with her new man and busy yourself doing your other commitments. How will you act when you finally have time for a relationship and you meet a great guy that sweeps you off your feet?
2007-08-07 16:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Ser021976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you are still in your teen years.
News flash for you ! EVERY friend you have now, will be gone within 5-15 years.
They will marry and move away, some will die, you will marry and start a family. The list goes on and on.
While we all need friends in our lives, these relationships are secondary to our "personal/family" lives.
Of my high school friends, I have seen 1 in the past 10 years. We stay in contact on an occasional basis only. We both have separate lives, and life took us down separate paths.
Fortunately, I was there (and able) for this friend when he needed someone. I mearly returned a long overdue favor.
2007-08-07 16:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
it sounds like you are making a mountain out of a molehill, why does it matter, thats her man, you are not her man! let her do her thing. she has a life and if you are so busy like you say you are why are you tripping over what she did? she didnt call so what?! get a life!
2007-08-07 16:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound a little jealous..look, when you're older things change...girls get closer to their boyfriends, think about it, when you're married who are you going to spend more time with? your husband or your girlfriends? right, your husband.
my cousin is 16 and she says that her bf is her best friend. sorry, chica. maybe you should tell her that you feel deprived of her and ask her to do something with you..spend some one on one time.
2007-08-07 16:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♣swirley_gumdrops♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah ur right... leave the lovebirds alone.... cuz he can give her something u can.... sorry but its the truth.... that doesn't mean she doesn't love u 2!
2007-08-07 16:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋