i mean the initial attraction when you got married is no more. from a man's point of view ,does looks count in this stage or emotional bonding overlook that.
2007-08-07 15:54:13 · 21 answers · asked by tina 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is exactly what you make of it. Don't assume that just because as you age the physical attraction is gone. Naturally it become a more mature relationship. it is up to both of you to keep the spark lit.
I am 60 + I still get excited when I see my wife. I still believe that she is just as beautiful as the day we met. I would love her regardless. Beauty is throughout not just on the outside.
One of the most important things that you need to do is communicate with your husband. Sharing feelings, thoughts, dreams. Keep the love alive. Keep what you had when you first met.
I know for me, I love my wife more now than ever. We have fun together, we never argue. We disagree but don't fight about who is right or wrong. Who cares and how important is it.
Try going to Vegas and reaffirming your vows.
2007-08-07 16:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
the initial attraction when you got married is no more. from a man's point of view ,does looks count in this stage or emotional bonding overlook that.
2007-08-08 01:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Devendra S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great question! Sorry I am not a guy, but as a woman I can give you a better answer. Smile. We ( ladies ) always pay attention to any changes... We have been married for over 17 years now, so our relationship isn't new, but it is pretty exciting at times. We know each other so well, and care about making each other happy so much: our sex life is magical... for both of us. We dedicate time and effort to keep things hot. We work out together, have romantic dinners at least once a week, we hug and kiss all the time... I never neglect taking care of my body and my marriage. We also discuss everything: feelings, emotions and sexual fantasies... and we play them out sometimes... it really is so much more fun, than at the beginning of our relationship.
2007-08-07 23:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks count...at any age. Anyone says differant, is lying. Otherwise, the magazines would not have pictures.
The initial attraction between me and my wife, was not looks. And still remains.
She has put on a few pounds over the past 6 months, and is working hard to lose them. But, I was never attracted to a woman with a small frame. I don't like fat ones either. I just want one that I can't break.
2007-08-07 23:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your first sentence is the problem -- if the initial attractiion is "no more", there's more problems there than just "familiarity breeds contempt".
I think it's going to depend on the man and his level of maturity. You've got those men who hit their 40s, hit a mid-life crisis, look around and wonder, "Is THIS all there is?" They are the ones who suddenly end up with the trophy wife. Other men may hit that crisis, but he looks around, are grateful for their families and what he and his wife have built together and doesn't spend a lot of angst being greedy about what they think they might "deserve".
Through the eyes of love, we are all beautiful.
2007-08-07 23:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the best years are just starting. By the time you reach 40, you pretty much know where your career is headed, have established a home, and children. Of course, looks count. Both partners in a marriage should always work at looking their best.
2007-08-07 23:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have built a bond with your mate and really love them then you will be desirable on so many more levels then when you first married. Physical attraction is what gets a man interested, but emotional and mental attraction keep them.
2007-08-07 22:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the wife keeps herself in good health , physical strength ; still looking lovely , beautiful & attractive with her interesting outfits, hairstyles, makeup etc. , maintains sweet & soft behaviour & communication & keeps loving her husband as usual including inviting him for regular sex, I don't think significant difference exists as compared to young age. A man can have sex thrice per night upto the af 50 if he drinks warm milk with honey dissolved in that daily, rest assured. So, why not to utilize that quality by keeping oneself lovely , attractive & friendly with him like in early 20s ? Only 5 % strength loss is there which is not significant. do not bother about the age . Keep loving each other deeply & have regular sex achieving orgasm.
2007-08-08 03:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks still count and there is still an attraction that never goes away if your still in love.After 40 you know so much more and respect each other more it really is a great age to be at.
2007-08-07 22:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Miss YSL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mood swings in a wife going through midlife crisis puts a lot of strain on a husband.
2007-08-07 23:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by melbournewooferblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋