Okay, theres midnight madness at the fair on friday. I was going to go with like 15 of my friends, who i never get to see since i moved last year. I want the freedom to hang out with my friends and have fun for the first time in a long time. Im almost 14 and so are my friends. Well all be togeather. So, my mom changes her miind and is coming with us. Shes also going with her boyfriend and my friends mom. We are all mad. We wanted to be just us kids, cause we can't act fun and or have fun with our parents watching our every move. My mom and i have been arguing for hours, i need your advice. Should she leave me alone or go with us. Im so upset about it i cried. And she would be literally right next to me, the ENTIRE time!
2007-08-07 14:50:24 · 11 answers · asked by young and broken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People are telling me im too young to be alone. But i will have tons of friends with me (at least 10). And my mom let me do it with just 1 friend when i was 11, with no chaperon. I dont need one. And i don't need 3 chaperons watching me. And it isn't possible to have fun with my parents, not at all!!!
2007-08-07 15:02:48 · update #1
Believe me, you're lucky. I can't even hang out with my friends or talk on the phone with them.
2007-08-07 15:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie475 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 14 you are still quite young, as much as you dont want to hear it you are.
Your mother is concerned for you and your friends saftey. I doubt that she will be right beside you all the time holding your hand and coddling you like an infant.
Im sure that she will respect your space.
Being that the fair is "midnight madness" I am assuming that you and your friends will be there untill late hours into the early morning hours. Im sure she wants to be there in case you need anything, you get hurt.. or god only knows what else.
If your idea of a fun time at the fair with your friends is equivilent to smoke pot and or drinking alcohol then you need to re-evaluate your idea of fun.
Personally I would not let my daughters and their friends go to the fair without adult supervision. It is just not safe there are way to many things that can happen.
You are 14, you still have alot of years left, there will be much time when you are older to have fun with just your friends.. no parents around.
But at your age honey, your mom needs to be there and for support yes she should bring your friends moms as well. Gives her someone to talk to while you and your friends are having fun.
I hope that you realise that she isnt there to stop you from having fun, she is there as a safety net.
What would happen if you and your friends got into a fight and they decided to leave and its 1am... you have no money and are alone, scared?
What would you do if some creep approached you and started making unwanted advances?
What if you tripped, fell.. broke your arm or leg? who would take you to the hospital? Do any of your 14 yr old friends have a car to drive you ?
These are reasons that your mom wants to go with you.
Again, not to stop your fun.. but to make sure it stays fun.
2007-08-07 15:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mom's rule so it's not worth arguing about. Arguing always leads to a lot of turbulence and upset feelings. You don't want that, and you can avoid it if you think about it. Try to step back from the situation and give in. Just drop it and be happy. Try to think of other things. This way you won't argue. This advice will serve you well when you get married too. I know it's hard to see, but it will save you a lot of arguing and fighting. Besides, you'll still find ways to have fun at the fair with your Mom there. So try to be happy.
There's no sense in arguing about it for hours. You can ask her about it a couple of times and try to persuade her some, but you can't go on and on about it. Moms have the final word.
Personally, I think it may be alright if you went to the fair with your friends. It's a toss up, though. Most of the answers seem to side with your mom. That's rough.
Good luck. Cheer up.
2007-08-07 16:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably don't want to hear this. However, at the age of 14 your mother is responsible to insure that you grow up to at least the age of maturation safely and hopefully into a responsible adult like your mother is demonstrating herself to be. Unfortunately, at 14 you don't have the experience to do that now. Read the newspapers, read the local and national news, read online and see how many perverts are out there waiting to prey on young people like yourself then hopefully you'll understand why your mother made the decision she did to join you.
That's not to say that you can't have fun. You can have fun and show your mother that you're mature for your age and she just might give you a little more space the next time. Arguing just compounds the problem.
In the future you'll thank your mother for seeing that you grew up to be a responsible person.
2007-08-07 15:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Frosses 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are there guys going? moms are always cautious about guys no matter if there your best friends, or what. You are young im a little past 15 and my mom still dont let me go out at midnight with even 10 people. and i thank her for that because you don't know how dangerous it is to be out at that young. you really dont. all those pervs out there, i just recently thought about it and its scary. just be safe, let your mom go its whats better. and i know its not what you or anyone wants, but they are your protectors. trust your parents.
2007-08-07 15:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by Shelby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She just want to protect you,i think you are too young to be hanging with 13 year old kids midnight you know...i don't want to be mean but your mom is right!After you turn 18 you will be able to do whatever you want!But for now just leave it to your mom.
2007-08-07 14:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you ask her to go as a chaperone??? Just to make sure no one gets hurt or in trouble..and have her and her bf keep in touch by cell phone or pager... that way you can have help if you need it , but the freedom to have fun too.......... just a thought....
2007-08-07 14:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are 13? Enjoy the fact that she's letting you go at all! That's her choice. Talk to her beforehand and set up some ground rules.
It's absolutely possible to have fun with your parents there.
2007-08-07 14:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are too young to be going out by yourself and besides your mom loves you and just wants to protect you so don't be too upset about her coming alone with you
2007-08-07 16:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by chris14 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are still a child. yes your mom should go. but she should let you and your friends do some things alone only where she can see you. i did this with my kids. they do it with their kids, they respect me for loving them that much. it is parental eternal love, you will be ok.
2007-08-07 15:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋