What are the hardest years of marriage? why?

Answer 1

I believe the first year would be the hardest. Every person comes from a different background, brings different baggage into a relationship. when you are married, you are supposed to be giving, and put the other spouse's needs before your own. It is a real adjustment. when you are dating, you are on your best behavior, but when you are married, all the walls (should) come down.

Answer 2

Our hardest was the first year, because we had so much to learn about each other and get used to. It's probably different if you've lived together before marriage, but for us it a was a major change because we hadn't lived together and we also moved to a new town a week after the wedding. Other than that year, it was hard after we became parents because we had new roles, new responsibilities, and we had to find a new balance. Somehow every year is different though, even after 14 anniversaries have gone by.

Answer 3

I think the answer changes depending on how long you've been married. We just had our seventh anniversary, and I think probably year four was the hardest, since that was the year our daughter was born. Adjusting to life after baby was tough, just because so much changes between the two of you, and little things you took for granted change. But nothing makes my heart happier or makes me love my husband more than when I see him parent. We now have two children, and the adjustment the second time was easier, since we already we used to not going out much, having less alone time together, and had changed our ideas of what romance really was.

Answer 4

People say the hardest year of a marriage is the first year, but I don't believe this. I thoroughly enjoy married life. I always wanted to be married, and I married someone who is my best partner in life. We do not argue. Our marriage is strong because we face everything together. I cannot begin to tell you how wonderful it is to know that you have your best friend and your best romantic partner as your spouse.

I think our marriage has been "easy" because we both got married in our 30s. We were very content as individuals, so as a couple, we tend to bring out the best in each other.

Answer 5

Even more than the years that a couple is trying to get on their feet financially, I would say it is the year or so after the first child is born. The child changes both of them, relationships with other, the way they relate to each other, their social life, their dreams, etc. I had my first way before all my long-term friends, as well as my husbands' friends and all of our siblings, but I have watched every single couple go through the difficulties of adjusting to the changes after the first babe. The good news is that few relationships did not make it to baby #2.

Answer 6

I think the years when children come on the scene. Interests and attention gets diverted to the children and often a spouse can be left out. usually the man, then he tends to find interestes somewhere else... sometimes a woman, some times work or sports...

Raising children is very hard and changes the dynamics of a relationship. Make sure you are prepared and that you have a strong relationship base first.

Answer 7

I heard the first few years are the hardest, especially if you've never lived with your partner. Also, the biggest problem is communication. Alot of new couples...(including people that have been married for years) don't discuss money and financial issues..which leads to divorce, stress and marital problems.

Finance is one the leading problems in the U.S. that causes divorce. Case study 2007.

Answer 8

The hardest years are the ones you don't work on. Marriage takes alot of work, and if you don't do the work, it's going to fail.

Answer 9

I don't know every year could be hard if both aren't willing to work on it, but I have heard the first year is the hardest? It was good for me though!

Answer 10

I once read somewhere that if you can stayed married for 10 years your chances of staying married goes up by 50% so I'm guessing the frist ten are the hardest.