what should I do about coming out of the closet to my parents?

Question

My name is anthony and I am 16 years old and I am gay and I am thinking about coming out to my parents sometime in the very near future.
I love my parents so much and the thought of them not being proud of their one and only son makes me really sad
My sister is homophobic and I have to tell her too and she is going to be so disappionated in me.
someone please help me and tell me what to do!

Answer 1

Anthony, I'd think you should call the good people at PFLAG...they are good people -most of whom have glbt children themselves ....They have a wealth of information to help you with this and they will never try to force you to do anything. Pick up the phone. You have nothing to lose.

Answer 2

Coming out to your parents is probably the biggest thing you will ever do in your entire life. Obviously it varies massively for some but what you need to understand is that, although realising you're gay is hard, it's harder to ignore it. I'm sure your parents and even your sister will love you regardless.
What you should do is break it to one of your parents first, preferably your mother, as women tend to be better with the emotional stuff. When you see her reaction (and i hope for your sake it's a positive one) you could then ask her to tell your father. Crying is normal in this situation, by the way, so don't be scared if she does cry. What you have to remember is that you may be ready to come out, but they may not be ready for you to come out. It may take them a little time to come to terms with your sexuality, which again is normal and nothing to be scared of.
With regards to your sister, her homophobia probably stems from the ignorance of not knowing any gay people except those she sees on TV which aren't normally role models for young gay men. When she discovers your sexuality, she'll no doubt change her view.
I wish you lots of strength and courage at this emotional time in your life, and remember that it'll be better for your family to hear this from you rather than through someone else.
Good luck my young friend!
Gareth

Answer 3

Coming out is always a risk. It could be easier to wait until you move out to tell them. That will at least eliminate the "as long as you live under my roof, you have to follow my rules" issue I ran into. Go figure, a rule that you can't be lesbian while you live at home. Sheesh. Your parents may be cooler about it than mine were, but I wouldn't take a chance if I didn't have to. My parents found out because my mother decided to read my email while I was out of the house. I wish you the best of luck no matter what you decide to do.

Answer 4

I sent my parents this book for Christmas:

http://www.amazon.ca/Always-Child-Understanding-Transgendered-Questioning/dp/0743226496/ref=sr_1_5/702-6797318-9856041?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1186533659&sr=1-5

And came out to them on my next visit. It was vey easy because they knew...

Good luck

Answer 5

Move out of the house first. If you're old enough to enter into an adult relationship, then you're old enough to live on your own.

If you need their support, then you have to live under their rules.

Answer 6

well, i think now it's not the right moment to tell it to your parents wait be strong
if they love u, they're gonna accept u, maybe its gonna be hard but they have to understand
kisses & huges

Answer 7

LIterally walk out of a closet.

Answer 8

why come out at all if all your going to do is get in a sh*t fight , sorry I can not understand this compulsion to "come out" what really makes you think that everyone wants or needs to know about your sexual preference?

Answer 9

turn on your i.m and i.m me

16/male