My ex-boyfriend agreed to pay $400 per month in child support five years ago. He paid that every month for three years, then told me that he came upon hard times and asked if I could go with accepting $200 per month until he got more on his feet. For the past two years he's paid the support on time, but he's gotten a better job where he makes $35,000 per year. His wife also brings in about $30,000 per year. We have no court orders for child support. Now he's decided to work and go back to school. Should I get a court order for support so that he won't stop paying it or so he won't reduce it again? Would he be asked to pay more? What's the normal amount a person receives in child support per child?
2007-08-07 13:21:06 · 18 answers · asked by Amanda M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kids come first no matter what. If your ex is bringing in 65,000 a year including his wife that is. He needs to be paying you what he agreed. You and your ex need to come to some type of mutual agreement that works for you. Just let him know your alternative witch is the court order, maybe he'll change his ways. He don't wanna get hit with that, 'cause the courts don't play when it comes to that. I think that it will be between $200 and $400 a month per child, depending on his income. You are a really good girl and I applaud you for having a heart when it comes to support. If he's not doing his part as a father, slapping with the order would be the idea. I've never been 'thru anything like that but I have friends. You have a good heart but if he isn't helping you, you gotta do what you gotta do babe. For your kids sake. If you do take him to the courts you will have satisfaction. Try and have that understanding with him and see what happens then make your move. Good luck babe!!!
2007-08-07 14:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Donnie Brasco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it's always best to go through the court system to determine these things so there is never any confusion. Considering that he also responsible for your child, he should pay what is fair and reasonable, and that can be decided in court. They will look at his income, expenses, and yours and the amount will be determined accordingly. To be on the safe side get it taken care of and documented so you can assure that you will get a steady amount each month, so you can be able to plan on what you will be able to do and afford for your child.
2007-08-07 13:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Vegas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definetly establish a court order for your child support. Do you have visitation in writing as well? If not, you should take care of that as well. As far as the amount he pays you, that depends on state to state.
2007-08-07 13:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by DelinquentGurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes get a order for child support because if he ever decides not to pay you don't have anything to fall back on. They go by his pay. The new wife or husband income doesn't count for child support.
2007-08-07 13:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he has kept his part of the agreement thus far.I would suggest discussing the situation with him and asking for more (a fair amount) support. Trying to come to a new arrangement with someone who has kept his end of the deal,may be more profitable to you than you think.Personally I would rather me and my ex would work out our child rearing amicably,not with our government "parenting us"! good luck...
2007-08-07 13:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by gowithwhatuknow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how many children hes paying child support on my mom is getting 260 a month for two children but i would just wait a little bit and wait till he gets back on his feet and go from there but if you feel you are getting cheated get a Court order
hope i helped
2007-08-07 13:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would get a court order. The amount will be based on what is standard in your state.
2007-08-07 13:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take him to court or call the child support agency in your area
2007-08-07 13:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
take him to court so you have a structure payment. This will allow you to better plan for the future. andkeep him from deciding how much to pay you is conveinint for him
2007-08-07 15:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to court.all states are different,but all have guide lines as applied to his earnings,also you can get back support from your babys birth if he hasn,t run the money through the courts.good luck i know from personal experence,my ex hit me up when my children were 18 and 22. for all those years i gave her cash but it didn,t count,go figure
2007-08-07 13:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by indm45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋