How do I stop from being overcome with sexual desire?

Question

I want to wait untill marriage to have sex, however I have an insatiable sex drive. I'm driving myself insane with desire.
I'm worried that I might make a rash decision in choosing my husband, and get married too early, b/c of my uncontrollable sexual desires, or worse I might give in to the desires prematurely.
Please give me some tips on how to not be so obsessed with sex and how I could battle this out from a psychological perspective. Thanks! =)

By the way, I was thinking about writing a dirty story. I've never done it before, but was considering if that would act as a good release. Lol.

Answer 1

You need a hobby, preferably one where you can be monitored, and one where you have little physical contact with others. Try cross country running or joining a track team. You have to provide yourself with other options for concentration besides an obsession with doing something you hadn't planned on doing until you are married. And, if you think you're going to marry a guy just to sleep with him, you're way too immature to even be on this subject. You have a long way to go.

Answer 2

Well you are definitely close to hitting the nail right on the head.

"I'm worried that I might make a rash decision in choosing my husband, and get married too early, b/c of my uncontrollable sexual desires, or worse I might give in to the desires prematurely."

That's exactly it. We are human, sexual creatures. The desire is there by nature and stifling it is unhealthy. The evidence should be clear to you as you are dealing with the consequences every day at this point.

If you don't try some guys out and get a feel for what a full blown relationship is, you pretty much will make a rash decision on choosing your husband. Why? Because you don't have enough information to make an informed decision.

Let's say I give you a choice between eating apples, oranges, or potatoes for the rest of your life (and for this situation any of these are capable of nourishing you entirely). But! Imagine that you've never had any of these. You don't know the texture or taste. You've seen them (maybe even smelled them) and people and told you that apples are sweet and crunchy, oranges are juicy and a little tart but still sweet, ect....

But now you have to choose one you will eat for the rest of your life. What's your favorite? Do you know if you really like the crunch of an apple? Nope, you can't. You can only guess. Now remember any of these will provide all the nourishment you need, but you'll never know if the other one tasted better or makes you feel better when you eat it. You'll wake up every day and wonder 'what if...' and you'll never know.

Answer 3

With all due respect, marriage is not necessarily going to satisfy all your sexual needs--at least not forever. It may at the beginning, *if* you and your husband prove to be highly compatible sexually (and there's no guarantee of that unless you've tested it beforehand). But eventually, in many many long-term relationships, that initial heat cools down. If one partner has a high sex drive and the other doesn't (which can happen for innumerable reasons, including stress, certain illnesses, and medications), that can be hugely problematic.

My advice: learn to pleasure yourself. That will help both now *and* in any future "quiet times" after you're married.

P.S. Writing erotic stories might definitely be a good outlet, and might also help you learn about what turns you on most. That information will be good to have whenever you do begin being fully sexual with someone you love.

Answer 4

Theres three things you can do

1.Try to occupy yourself with something else
2.Do what most Americans do have casual relationhips and have sex with those you care about not meaning your husband but someone you care about enough
3.Masturbate

of course theres other things you can do within those three things like kinky sexy and forget about marriage all together but those are your best bet if you want to reamin humble and satisfy your sexual desires

Answer 5

Are you saving yourself out of guilt? Or fear of getting a disease? I did not save myself for marriage and do you know what it did not make a difference, enjoy yourself, just use protection,have a guy use a condom . I am afraid if you try and hold off you'll marry the wrong guy so you can have sex. It is better to go for a test drive then end up with a lemon.

Answer 6

i used to have it to and the way i stopped it was stay away from stuff that will even make me think about it

Answer 7

Look up pictures of sexual diseases on the internet.

Answer 8

Masturbate a lot.

I'm not joking.

Answer 9

honestly i think you have problems.
if you want to have sex GO HAVE SEX who cares about getting married or not.. i used to think like that till last year! come on nowww..... your husband probably is going to be with so many people... enjoy your life... and if you are SO into it.. and always thinking about it.... then might as well....
don't go crazy!

Answer 10

Have sex already damn you may get married and he might suck but you'd never know if you have nothing to compare it to. USE CONDOMS ALWAYS!