my husband and i are getting a divorce, he lied to me in the beggining and told me he talked to a lawyer and he filed for divorce, i move out and two weeks ago he tells me that he lied he did not file for divorce. we are still getting one but my husbnad still has not filed for divorce yet! what is taking him so long? we live in seperate homes now and my husband is still treating me like his wife. he is still taking care of me and giving me money, he has not lacked in taking care of me. i refused to move make in with him because of the lie about divorce. i want him to pay for it so i want him to file first. i already have a lawyer and iam to c him on thursday. why is my husband taking so long to file for divorce? every time i ask him about it he says iam filling next week, next week comes no paper, the next week and the next week and he still has not filled! he says he tired of everything and he is moving to florida but he has not left yet! what is wrong with the idiot?!
2007-08-07 12:44:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably just doesn't want the court to mandate any payments, i.e. alimony or child support. He probably thinks it will be easier for him to give you what he can when he can without a court order. If you really want to move on you have to file, he may have to pay court cost anyway.
2007-08-07 12:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Brian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're letting him take care of you and he thinks there is still a chance. File if you want the divorce. He'll get the message. So what if you pay for it. Take some of the money he gives you and file. There are advantages to filing first.
2007-08-07 19:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by askmeimightknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you hit the nail on the head, tonight he's an idiot but if you had asked this last night I may have sided with him. If he's still giving you money, take all he gives you and pay for your lawyer, then you file. What does it matter who does it first, as long as the outcome is the same. If it's what you really want to do, then DO IT!!!
2007-08-07 19:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alannah,
Your soon-to-be ex wants you to make the first move. There are some who believe that the person who files for divorce first is the person who has "done the most wrong" in the marriage. This is a foolish belief. Go ahead and see your attorney. File for divorce. You need it. Good luck. :)
2007-08-07 19:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he doens't know what he wants. But you shouldn't have to put up with being mucked around. Bite the bullet and file for divorce yourself - let him know that you are serious about this even if he wants to leave it. If you keep it the way it is it's going to be like a damp cloud always hanging over you.
2007-08-07 19:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lawyer will know why your husband is acting this way. Usually, they want you to move out so they can get the house, if you own it, or get custody of the kids (if you had any). Don't know your hubby's particular reason. Maybe he's confused or mentally unstable? Maybe he doesn't want to spend money on lawyers and wants to wait until you file against him so you have to pay for it all.
2007-08-07 19:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's not sure if he should do it or not. You said he's giving you money. If you want the divorce so bad then take the money and go file.
2007-08-07 19:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he wants you to pay for the divorce. Go ahead and file; in the long run, it will be worth it if you're miserable.
2007-08-07 20:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is strange, sounds like he's playing mind games with you. You don't have to wait for him, you can still file for divorce if that's what you want.
2007-08-07 19:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a nutshell?
i see a lot of games being played by BOTH of you
i wager that if you both got divorced you would both remarry and make 2 other people unhappy
suggestion? go together to marriage guidance counsel and find out how to get behind all this behaviour and make it work as you both still have felines for each other
2007-08-07 19:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Aslan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋