Live your life for your partner as mum and dad aren't going to always be around and as long as your happy with him, then that is all that matters. Just remember though that parents can and do see things alot clearer than you, because your in the relationship and they aren't. Plus they have alot more experience up their sleeve. I agree though that your mum was in the wrong and shouldn't of made that nasty phone call. Your parents sound very jealous that your man has taken you away from them so to speak. Maybe you two have to learn another lesson in life and this is a good one, "Learn to have the last laugh on the inside and smile".
2007-08-07 12:53:21
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answered by Live_For_Today 6
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Well, I, personally, think you made a mistake marrying a guy who can't work (for whatever reason). Because you will be supporting him the rest of your life probably. But, it's your business. I also don't know how old you are. Are you under 21? If so, your parents are right. This guy may be using you to support him. Were your parents invited to the wedding? If not, they don't owe you a gift, you know. You were wrong not to invite them to the most important day of your life. I think YOU should go (alone) to visit your mother and talk. Tell her you love her and you want her to try to love your husband. Tell her you realize he isn't working and supporting you (or even doing his share), but he will. She needs to accept your choice and try to get along so that your marriage has a chance of surviving. You are going to miss your parents if you let this go on. They may never forgive you. You also need to tell your husband to be polite to your parents so that you can continue to have a relationship with your family. IF either of them can't try to get along, THAT is the person who doesn't love you. When you love someone you tolerate their choices to keep the relationship good.
2007-08-07 19:57:04
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answered by Wiser1 6
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You never know when you will need your parents. Try your best to patch things with them. As for your husband, you can get some kind of assistance from his injury. That will make ends meet. Your parents just love you and want the best for you. Don't be angry with them. They're not expressing themselves the right way. Place a flower with a card at her door saying you love her. Someone has to break the ice.
2007-08-07 19:59:04
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answered by roses461 2
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Your mother overstepped the line by calling your husband. He's your husband but he's not her child. I'm sure you feel betrayed and your mother will not stop unless you confront her about this. Tell her you love her but she needs to stay out of your business with your mate because there's not room in a marriage for three people. Tell her if you have a problem in your marriage, you'll discuss it with your mate. However, remind her that your loyalty is to your husband. If she does not show that she's sorry you may need to stay away from her for awhile.
2007-08-07 20:06:16
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answered by missingora 7
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if your husband really mess up his back maybe he should see a doctor the doctor can sign paper so that he can fget SSI so that yall can have more money maybe you need to talk to your mother let her kno that you are mommy and daddy lil girl still that you may be grown but you not goin no where explain to your mom that he having back problem that eh tryin to do something about it
2007-08-07 19:48:17
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answered by ghettofabshay 2
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Wait for her to apologize or write her a letter explaining to her that you are waiting for her to apologize and that she needs to understand that you have a family of your own now and she needs to respect your family.
You did the right thing. We are supposed to grow up, create our own families, and stand by them. Not push them aside because our parents or other family doesn't like them.
Stand by your hubby and stick to your guns. He is your family now and you are blessed to realize that.
2007-08-07 19:51:18
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answered by az_mommma 6
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Your marriage is your business not your mothers. She needs to learn to let go and you need to learn to stand up to her. Sounds like she's trying to make you choose between her you your husband. Choose your husband, it's what you're supposed to do.
2007-08-07 19:47:48
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answered by askmeimightknow 2
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