I talk to other people, but I act shy around them. Lately, I've begun thinking about how shy I DON'T want to be around people and how much less I want to start talking to myself. I don't talk to myself excessively or hold a full on conversation with myself, but with small things like if I'm watching TV by myself then i'll say little things about what's happening or if I have thoughts that I just have to vent out and have nobody to talk to then I'll talk to myself about them...
Deep down, I'm really not a shy person at all, but that's how I act around people (even people I've known practically my whole life). How do I get out of this 'shell' that I've been in for about 9 years (I'm 16) and how do I stop talking to myself as much? Thanks for all your help.
2007-08-07 12:40:32 · 12 answers · asked by Jacie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have to be more social, there is no wonder potion or "cure" for shyness, you just have to be around people more often, and then you will actually have someone to talk to, instead of yourself.
2007-08-07 12:43:22 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
Look, perfectly normal. A lot of people think that it is weird but it isn't. Sometimes, talking to your self and getting away from other people for a little while is healthy, just so long as it doesn't become excessive.
Get out of the house and go to the mall, BY YOURSELF. Talk to someone around your age that you don't know at all. Get to know a guy on a non-romantic level (BIG ONE RIGHT THERE). Join a club that has people you would like to know. Also, if you see another person who you think might have the same problem as you, talk to them. This way, you know it is as awkward for you as it is for them. Sit at a new table at school. Find little things in common to break the ice. Find out about them and use similarities in your lives to connect. Go to a church youth group on a Wednesday night. If they aren't open to you and don't welcome you very well, then together they are not a very good youth group.
Don't wait by the phone waiting for someone to call. Be proactive. Pick up the phone and call someone. Not knowing their number is not an excuse (PHONE BOOK). Get some acquaintances. People you don't (and won't) normally hang out with who you can still call on for favors and talk to. If this doesn't work, find someone who is totally different than you, and be open to their personality, ideas, likes and dislikes, etc. If someone is really trying to get to know you, don't be shy. They are doing half the work of breaking out for you! Remember that if you are really putting in an effort to be less shy, you should open up. If you don't you're not really trying, are you?
2007-08-07 12:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by jacobdylan2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have yet to meet the tradesman in construction that does not talk to himself/herself while riddling with a conundrum. Don't sweat it. What you do have to watch out for is the fact that sustained periods of isolation will lead to a certain amount of comfort in doing this, and when you get back to a more social environment will continue the behavior. All that it seems to display is that you are a deep thinker. You should force yourself to have some regular contact with at least simple social environments in order to keep yourself in check. Something as simple as a coffee shop where you aren't forced to socialize directly should suffice. As for the seeming introversion... don't sweat that either. You are at an age in life where your personality is set and now your mind is starting to re-evaluate how it perceives it's surroundings. A phase we all go through. Don't get caught up in worrying about how others perceive you. It is gonna take a few more years to firmly decide how you perceive yourself.
2007-08-07 17:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by Old Stray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enlist the help of your best friend....
Have her announce to everyone "this is the new _____ , no more shy little mouse, she is going to be loud and outgoing, so watch out".
It will give you permission to be a bit out there and test your boundaries.
I did the same as you when I was 18, was sick of being shy, got transferred to a new office and decided I would walk in confident, loud and happy. I've never looked back.
2007-08-07 12:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm an purely new child and that i did no longer have many friends while i became little, so I talked to myself plenty. Then I moved to a sparkling college and made a gaggle of latest friends. even while i'm with a gaggle of people, I nevertheless seek advice from myself plenty. i assume that is a few thing all of us will ultimately will strengthen out of. the coolest element is that i've got no longer seen plenty harm come from it different than some stares while i'm conversing out loud. What i've got grown to do is circulate my teeth and tongue in my mouth so no one somewhat is conscious. i'm incredibly beneficial we strengthen out of it however.
2016-12-15 08:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal to talk to yourself.
Myself, its the ensuing arguments that get me. I lose half of them. LOL
In all seriousness, give it time. The fact that you are aware of a needed change is the first step in readjusting your person. Truth is most people spend there whole life readjusting (self improvement) their person.
2007-08-07 14:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Tinman12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah the person everyone talks to in thier life is themsellfs!
2007-08-07 12:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do it all the time
2007-08-07 12:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep me too, I'm always talking to myself, I get really tired of it sometimes, but its normal, actually its excersize for your brain.
2007-08-07 12:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by **Lilyanne** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am my favorite person to talk to! It's normal.
2007-08-07 13:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋