How to actually be yourself?

Question

Before Y/A I used to be hooked on wikihow. Recently, the beginning of '07 I questioned if I was really being myself. I think back now on it and I was myself but in a younger version, so I couldn't go back to that. How can I re-discover who I actually am personality wise? Can someone give me an owners manual guide or something because this is really becoming an issue to me.

Answer 1

1) First u have to know urself! Do personality tests on the internet, list ur positive and negative stuff... do things like that.
2) When "being urself" don't THINK about being urself. Being urself is like.. just doing what U want to do. Thinking too much is uncomfortable. Try to do more, think less... ("Just do it")
3)Love urself how U are. Don't give reasons to LOVE urself. Love doesn't need reasons. Hate has a reason for everything.
Accept urself. Understand that everybody has the right to make mistakes. (Be Assertive). Work on ur "Self-Concept" (google it, it's hard to explain...)
4) Don't think much about it. It will only make things more confusing!!! Being urself is like an emotion. U shouldn't rationalize it. Asking, What can i do to be myself? is like asking what can i do to like this painting or this song? is something that comes natural. U don't need to think about it!

Answer 2

Well, first thing is to understand that you are ALWAYS you. this sounds sophomoric to say but think of it this way. Many years ago I took an acting class which at the time I thought was complete garbage, but then a few weeks into the class they mentioned method acting and the idea of basically "becoming" the character that you are portraying in a play / movie / what have you.

I found that by immersing yourself you can often then discover more about yourself as a result. It helps you to reconnect with yourself afterwards.

Excellent character performances are created this way and many famous actors use this method to "get into character", one of the most compelling actors who uses this method is Robert DeNiro, Merryl Streep, Forrest Whittaker who all "become" the character they are portraying.

Recently Mr. Whittaker got into the skin of the pathologically murderous dictator Idi Amin, of Uganda. When filming on site in Uganda, he was so "in" to his character that the crew and supporting cast who were working with him all started to defer and refer to Whittaker in the same terms as the deposed former dictator.

With some friends perhaps try portraying characters from a favorite movie, really try to act like someone else, either alone or with friends for a day or so. Pick an actor and or actress that you admire or find distinctive, this can be a little time consuming but it can also be good fun.

Afterwards , ask yourself how you differ from that other person, that can be very illuminating.

Otherwise, there are personality tests you can take , the Meyers-Briggs personality test, and the many variants thereof are VERY helpful in helping you to determine the "kind" of person you are , from the perspective of a whole battery of personality traits.

Here again, this is a much more straightforward way of determining this method but it is subject to some degree of uncertainty since like any tests, it also tends to measure your current state of mind rather than your particulars that it is _trying_ to measure.

Otherwise, you may wish to consider some books on the matter, I find the seven habits of highly effective people helpful, and review it from time to time. Also, the book "what color is your parachute" can help from a career perspective but more from a "What am I like as a professional adult?". Which very often is a large part of your personality.

At the end of the day remember that asking the question "Who are you?" is one for the ages and there are people in their 90's who are still figuring it out.

Answer 3

I think what you are asking is how to reinvent oneself. We cannot change our past, but we can redirect our future based on past experience. One great thing about Y/A’s is the feed back we get. Sometimes I get very hurtful responses, but I read them when I am alone and I am the only one who knows my response… with this in mind, I can develop a plan of how to respond should something similar happen when others are around.

Knowledge is power, so keep asking questions that will help you become who you want to be.

Also there is no manual. If there were, we’d all be programmed to think and act one way… and what a dull world we would then be living in. Just enjoy being you; I am sure you are a neat person that doesn’t realize all of your qualities yet.

Answer 4

If there was an "owner's manual" to be given, then you wouldn't be finding out who you are. You would be reading a manual that is universal and gives generalizations to things. You ask yourself who you are and listen to the answers. I know ha ha very funny. I am serious. Ask yourself your likes and dislikes. What means the world to you and what offends you. Do you like having orange hair on Mondays and bright yellow on Thursdays? Mix it up on Fridays so you can hang out with friends and enjoy music, laughter,dancing etc. Or are you the type that like your hair perfectly straight, long, brown and just out of your face while you have games with friend at your house on Wednesdays? No one can answer the question but you, and there is nothing wrong with you and finding out who you really are. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Before you can actually be yourself, you have to know who you are and accept who you are. What often makes us afraid to be ourselves is fear of rejection.

You don't "re-discover" who you are, you create who you are. You are in charge of who you decide to be.

I used to make a list of the personality traits that I wanted to have. Then I set out to achieve them.

You make yourself who you want to be.

Answer 6

Try meditation and see what answers you come up with from your own mind. Perhaps you need to spend more time with other people rather than with your computer, to be able to know who you really are...?????

Answer 7

Stop trying to be yourself. If you dont worry about being who you are, you will find it comes very naturally. You are who you are, no matter what you do.

Answer 8

Do what makes you genuinely happy, and what makes you feel good or 'right' inside. In this way, you will be yourself without even trying.

Answer 9

first, get a ladder and climb out of your belly button.

second, step away from the bong.

don't look back