What do you know about Suicide and people that do it?

Question

I grew up thinking that people that tried to commit suicide were somehow very different from me. I never believed suicide would be an option. I guess I was happy and couldn't imagine pain that would lead one to suicide. I don't believe in heaven or god so death seems like such a last resort to me.

Despite all this I took an overdose yesterday. I was upset about not having enough friends, and my girlfriend and I are broke up now so I've lost that foundation. Without sophie in my life I don't feel like I have much direction, and despite having two parents and sisters that love me, and 1500 dollars in the bank somehow doesn't console me.

Answer 1

You haven't considered that an attempt at suicide, as well as actually carrying it out, are signs of a cry for help, and an act of selfishness, as if you were telling everyone, "look, you have hurt me, now I am going to hurt you back". It solves nothing, you will not be around to see and/or enjoy the pain your suicide will have brought upon those whom you left behind. So, is it worth it? You do not sound like you're 80 years old, so this can not be all end all for you. Every life is full of disappointments and let downs and hurt and pain. If you step outside yourself and watch the television news, or browse the web, take a look at people who are in war torn countries, starving, frightened, who would live a limb to have your problems rather than their own. If you can be objective for just one moment, and compare yourself to any of those people, you'd see how selfish and ridiculous you're thinking. That should console you enough.

Answer 2

Never approach suicide as an emotional decision. It is one thing to consider from a rational (relatively objective view of self,) but as soon as the emotions are the prime motivator you must walk away from the decision.

Sorry you didn't discover this earlier in life. The bad news is most humans consider the option somewhat regularly. The worse news is it will undoubtedly cross your mind again. Accept that the feeling is normal. Give yourself the right to feel that depressed. Then very quickly kick yourself in the *** for letting it get to you that bad.

Broken hearts are an SOB. But they are a temporary sensation. Probably not your first nor your last. As for the O.D......... If you ain't doing it for recreational fun put the %$$#$ away. Every time you go "up" you hit as far below normal afterwards before you can get back to normal. Amusement is one thing but regular use will distort your emtions permanently and lead to exactly these types of misadventure.

Fair warning... drugs get as boring as the world you try to escape from with them. Then where you gonna turn?

Answer 3

when someone talked about suicide to me i also thought that the person thinking about committing it was giving up on there life. I then thought they were being selfish. Why i thought that is because they don't take in to consideration that they might be hurting the people around them if they committed suicide...

Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think of committing suicide until about two years ago. I was upset about something that now for the life of me i can't remember, ironic right?, so now two years latter having reasons and a point from the other side of the topic i see that some times people just get so terribly sad that they think no one would care if they were gone. I learned that every one has friends and people who care a great deal about them. And you should never want to take your own life when things get rough... "challenges only make people stronger"... if it wasn't for my best friend talking to me and saying that quote after talking to me i don't know where i would be right now

Answer 4

Hi there--had off and on suicidal thinking for years now. The best I can explain it is that there is a progression of thought to suicide.
I don't want to deal with this (situation/event)
I wish I could just disappear
I wish I could just melt into the floor (fantasy death)
I wish I would just die.
I want to die but it would hurt my friends (family..)
My pain and hurt are so bad I need to kill myself--addressing my pain matters more than others.

I teeter a bit on the ledge between remembering the impact my death would have (fiance, friends, family, dreams of children) and being unable to ignore the pain inside. That last step down is a doozey.

I'm not a bad person--I've been on over 15 medicines to try to get my biochemestry closer to normal--to stable and able to be happy....just hasn't worked out so far. So drug number 16.

I sincerely hope your situation isn't close to mine, that it's a 'simple' depression that you can pull out of with support of friends and family and hell, maybe some everyday Zoloft for a couple months, who knows.

Answer 5

Man I know how you feel... I was once in the same spot as you. The best advice that I can give you is : "Get involved in some sport or help out those that are less fortunate then you". The sports will help b/c you will find friends and helping out at a soup kitchen or children's hospital will make you feel good that you helped someone out, and you will also realize how much better your life is then many other peoples. Also you can ask them why they keep on living even though their life is so much worse. Honestly it helped me... and guess what I'm still alive. All the best man
Peace

Answer 6

Suicidal tendencies differ somewhat according to the person's age-group.
- The elderly commit suicide when they feel they have become too much of a burden to their families, and because their health is so terrible.
- People with depression commit suicide because that is the nature of depression, in that life just plain hurts too much.
- Teenagers commit suicide because they are unprepared for a stressful life situation, don't have the skills to handle the situation, and don't have the life-experiences to provide perspective for the situation at hand.

Answer 7

I think suicide happens when a persons pain exceeds their ability to cope. My mother and her brother both committed suicide. I want to, but I have a child. So I have to go on for him. If I died it would be hard for him at first, but I don't have a family. Besides, I don't think it's selfish at all to commit suicide. If the persons friends and family really cared about them, then they would try to help.

Answer 8

ever read
a long way down
by nick hornby?
give it a try
and if u dont feel like it take this advice
give it 90 days
if u still feel like this in 90 days. go ahead. i wouldnt blame u. but see if things have changed enough in 90 days. it helps a lot to be able to have tht 90th day to look forward to. while ur waiting for it to come try to change any+ every thing in ur life tht u dont like. when the 90th day comes, and if u dont feel the same, continue living and doing what you are. if u get this feeling once again, play the 90 days game again and see where you end up.

Answer 9

Will, my friend - it's time to get some help. Real help. A psychiatrist to get you on the right combo of meds, and psychotherapy (unbelievably awesomely helpful getting at the root of the problems). You can turn this around.

You may have hit rock bottom yesterday, but that only means that you go UP from here. I have faith in you. I know you may not believe in God, but I do, and you'll be in my prayers.

Answer 10

My experience with suicidal people has taught me this:

They are cowards;

they don't care who else would suffer if
they "offed" themselves;

they lacked the coping skills to do deal with the disappointments & pain that everyone experiences in life;

after receiving counseling, every one of them was so grateful to have learned a better way to respond to pain, they were glad to still be alive;

when suicidal people were introduced to people who were victims of worse circumstances, they got in touch with feelings of empathy & compassion that they didn't know they had;

with counseling they learned to not be so hopeless about the future; and,

they learned how to be less self-centered, and to focus on more positive outlets for relieving their pain, other than suicide.