2007-08-07 11:52:24 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I say that Women, sometime,advise their best friend to live a husband, it's only one example.I don't mean by that it's an absolute possibility.There is many more bad influence a female best friend often have.Sometime,perhaps unconciously, they send their best friend to destruction because of their own jealously.I notice that the more bitter and unlucky in love a women may be, the worst she is at giving advise.They see things darker, in their own perspective.Men is the scapegoat of all evils, the source of all problems.The more they age,more failures, the more bitter they became.They draw a dark image for love and won't go back to their previous youth naive love.
2007-08-08 18:12:55 · update #1
The worst part of that story, Women do listen to their best friends.
2007-08-08 18:14:41 · update #2
I had a friend who did that and she ended up telling me I was wrong to leave. Fortunately, it wasn't based on her advice that I left. That said, I can't even look at her anymore, let alone speak to her, because I could never trust her opinion or advice again. I do think, however, that you are speaking in generalities. None of my other friends, men and women, told me what to do. Instead, they were simply wonderful people who stood by me. I chose to seek the counseling of professionals -- psychological, church, legal and even my primary care doctor.
2007-08-07 11:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's the woman's fault for seeking advice from someone who is not qualified to help her in the first place.
Would you go to a tennis instructor for help on your jump-shot? Or a compulsive gambler for tips at the stock markets? Or an auto mechanic to
perform surgery on your heart?
If your friend is unlucky with love; and
can't keep a man; and has never walked down the aisle...then what makes you think she's an expert?
Why involve her with marital issues?
She can't provide you with any advice drawn from experience. Her only view
of relationships is going to be compromised. And yes, she's absolutely envious and jealous of you because her own miserable existence
is so distorted and twisted.
And this is the person of whom you seek advice? Hum, what does that say
about your own judgment, I wonder?
And they want you to leave your husband so that they can try to sink their paws into him; that is, if the paws
are not fully ingratiated into him already? So, I agree with your analysis.
2007-08-15 07:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by sylvester m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are taking the worst case scenario and making a mountain out of it to bash best friends. Most of us want to see our friends marriages work out we try to give advice about spicing things up, or marriage counseling, even overlooking horrible behavior. Most of the time when a woman tells her friend to leave is after she has seen that friend cry and go into self abuse thinking she isn't pretty enough or young enough because she has seen her husband and heard her husband say the most horrendous things, stare at other women openly and much more. Leave him is a desperate measure that we advise when it has been too much. WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?
2007-08-15 02:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad advice many times if the wife is that unhappy with her marriage her best option is to leave because men are not very willing to listen and learn the problems and they are not very willing to do anything about them and so nothing will change and the poor woman will remain miserable. If she leaves her husband she will have a chance to be free of his debilitating behavior and a chance to make a good life for her self and children, if any, and she has a chance to try again and find a mate that she can be happy with and have a good relationship.
2007-08-07 11:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An abusive husband I guess would think its bad advice, but thats only because someone is talking sense to the woman and trying to tell her she deserves more than to be a man's battering ram. For a woman to be talking about the problems in her marriage in the first place means she either cant talk to the husband or the problems are too big for her to sort out on her own. No-one would advise a person to leave a good marriage....and anyway, a person doesnt usually follow anyone's advice unless they really feel it themselves.
2007-08-07 12:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it's only one person's opinion that it is bad advice...it could be the right thing, it could be the wrong thing, but from one friend to another it's merely a suggestion of what the one friend would do in the same situation. Nobody can make a woman leave her husband, the woman would need to make that decision on her own based on her life experiences with him.
2007-08-08 04:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by MissayQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've been burned.
I guess you've made up your mind, huh?
Sorry that you probably had to go through that but it isn't that way for all women who have true friends and friends who really do care for one another like sisters. I know, because I have a best friend who is older than me and I am always giving her positive advice. We are both strong Christian women who builds our families and our friendship on a strong spiritual foundation. We have been best friends for 14 years and counting. -May you find the same. God Bless!
2007-08-14 17:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the situation (which you've listed none) that advice could be good. What if he was constantly cheating on her or beating her or molesting the kids, or if he was an alcoholic or drug user? I'd say for a woman to tell her friend to leave her husband is a pretty f'n good idea!
2007-08-07 12:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, YOU may think it's bad advice, but it totally depends on the woman's situation. If she asked the Y! Answers community about if she should leave her husband because he's been abusive, has cheated on her, has emotionally hurt her, etc., then only an idiot would tell her to "stay with your husband, and try to work it out."
2007-08-07 11:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I spoke to someone about the same thing always complaining, he told me he wasn't in love with his wife anymore but was gonna stay with her because of the money situation no children by this woman at all. he had been going though this four years i kept telling him to work it out. they are still married but not living as married couple. Do you know what it is like to be with someone who makes you UN happy.
it can be stressful even cause sickness.
2007-08-07 12:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋