I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 44. we want to get married and have children when he's 48. Is that to old for him?

Answer 1

Amazingly older than you, but it's better for a kid having a 60 years old dad than growing up with no dad at all.

Older men tend to be more faithful and stable.Probably if you were with a 25 years old guy he would had left you with the kids and you would had raise it all by your self.

If he can stay with you for ever, and am 97% sure he will, you better off than those teenage women with two kids on their own.

good luck

Answer 2

48 is no too old for a man to have children, it has been known for men to father children well into their 60's and 70's.

My question to you is why are you marrying a man that is more than twice your age. he could easily be your father and the generation gap is not just something made up. Where is your common ground, what interests do you share? You do not have common history or reference points and all of these things are very important in a marriage. I do hope you will stop and consider what it might be like for you at 40 when your husband is in his 80's. A woman reaches her prime at that age and I do not think you husband is going to be able to keep up with you. That could be a big problem and by then you will have children involved. What provision can he make for you and those children in the highly possible event that he dies before you and leave you with young children to raise and educate alone. Please think this over carefully before you proceed. Good Luck.

Answer 3

that's up to the two of you to decide. You said Children, plural..so I'm assuming you want more than one. If you have one at 25, and he's 48..when the kid is 10 years old he'll be 58 and about ready to retire..and that's just with one kids.

Think about what 10 year olds want, they want to be able to go play catch and run around and go camping. Outdoor stuff. Play video games. No offense, but at almost 60 is he going to be able to keep up? Plus he's going to have to keep working with the way college is nowdays. It's so expensive even today, and it's going to get alot worse. Yes there are grants, and scholorships...but it's up to the child whether or not he/she does well. What if they don't do well in HS, and need you to help pay for it?

My mother was 25 and my father 41 when they had me. My mom doesn't really care about age, but growing up..I remember hearing my dad say a few times that he wished he had kids when he was a little younger. I'm in college now, and he wants to retire. I'm going to college and working. I haven't asked for a dime towards school, my car or my living situation and I'm doing it all on my own b/c I realise that he really needs to retire. It's tough, but do you want your kid to have to do all that? idk. I would really think long and hard about this one, not only for yourselves but to the potential child as well..

Answer 4

A man is capable of fathering children from birth to death! That is not the main issue here though. Will he have the stamina needed to be a proactive father for his kids? Will you have the energy to pick up where he slacks? I find nothing wrong with the attraction you both have for each other but I strongly urge you to consider the practicality of your plan and the possible harm you can do to your kids as they are growing up with a father and grandfather all in the same person!

Answer 5

I think he is way too old for you. He is old enough to be your father. You should find someone else at your age range. Plus, why would someone want to wait until they are 48? I really think he doesn't want a family and maybe that's why he wants to wait to see if this relationship is going to work or not.

Question is, are you looking for a father figure rather than someone closest to your age?

Answer 6

I married when I was 22 with a man who was42 I had a child but my marriage last fast after 2 years I wasn't in love with him and when people seeing me with him they think he's my father . So think a lot before making any decision.

Answer 7

No. A man can procreate until the day he dies. Now, are you comfortable knowing that your child will have a 66 year old Daddy when he graduates high school?

Answer 8

Let me tell you something i dont know what you would have in commonm with a man this old my answere to you would not to marry this man you are still young to know for sure if this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with live a little.

Answer 9

well that is great you know as long as your happy with him and your both want kid when he is 48 but what about when your child is getting older do you thinkl he can still be able to be in good health!!! you know??? but i think that is greta for you and your family

Answer 10

I think that's up to him to decide. He can certainly still have them but how does he feel about being that age raising kids.