Im pregnant and i want to keep it but should I?

Question

im not sure what the best option is though i know i dont want to give it up i hate the idea of abortion but after the baby is born if i keep it i will still have to work and finish highschool i dont know how to afford day care i mean its really expensive and im only sixteen ..what should i do?

i tried to avoid this im on the shot and we use protection but obviously that didnt work..

I know the baby is not and "it".Just a little stressed out and i dont know how to deal with it and for the person who ask the father is present and hes just as confused as i am...i took a test so i know i am pregnant but my mom keeps swearing im not just cause im on birth control she keeps saying i just want attention. I know there are online high school but i dont know if there are any free ones i would love to stay home, learn and take care of my baby...i really want to keep the baby i know its possible and i would put it before myself at all costs...

Ok there have been a few people saying you shouldnt have had sex...im 16 i took all the necessary precautions condoms and birthcontrol, and im in love with the guy which is important..you dont need to judge me, im looking for support oh and to the people who asked I LIVE IN PHOENIX ARIZONA

Answer 1

Well I know how you feel! I got pregnant at 16 years old as well. I think your showing good judgement on really looking at your options. Don't listen to anyone judge you either, it's happened and can't be changed. Depending on where you live there is help. There should be state help with daycare. Here it's called c-cap! you only pay a small portion of costs. Do you have supportive parents? Are they willing to help? My parents were a god send to me. My biggest suggestion is to finish school, so you don't go your whole life struggling. Is the dad providing child support? that should help some as well. There should also be a program called WIC (women, infants, and children) they help provide food, and formula. The biggest question is do you think you can handle being a full time mom? What do you see for your future? I hope you find the answers you need! Good luck to you sweetie.

Answer 2

Opinions are like noses, everyone has one and some need to be blown (off). You are exploring your options, and you want to do what is best for you and the baby that you carry. That shows a high level of maturity. Good for you.
If you have supportive parents, then talk with them about your options with them. Also explore agencies that could help you run by your state or federal programs. I saw Open Adoption mentioned, and that is certainly one option. Caring for an infant while going to school and working can be done, but it is going to be a very hard road.
The best advice is explore all your options, weigh the facts, and do what you feel will be the best thing for that new life you carry. I would never presume to tell you what would be the best course for you or your child, I am not that big an egomaniac.
GL

Answer 3

Hello Ashley I cannot give you a simple answer to this but I can tell you that there is answer, but it will take some time and effort on your part. This can be a new beginning for the both of you. I think when you made up you mind not to end your baby's life something or someone was trying to tell you something... Life is not easy most of the time, and money does not grow on tree's but some how we all seem to make it Thru, one step at a time. Please stay grounded and don't let live overwhelm you. Your sixteen and underneath your fathers covering. So talk with your parents, make sure that they now that you love them, talk ,and then talk some more. I will be praying for you and your family.... and family to come. Go to the father in Prayer...

Answer 4

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for not getting an abortion. That is something that can never be undone. Keeping your baby or letting a loving couple love and raise your baby is going to be a hard decision to make. Do you have support at home to help you with daycare, formula, diapers etc....? Are you ready to be a mom - possibly not going to the prom or hanging w/ friends, sleeping late, graduating and discovering what you want to do with your life and a myriad of other things young girls do when they don't have the responsibility of a child? Can you carry this child, doing everything you can to insure a healthy baby and then give it up?
Please find a counselor to help you make this decision and help you find all the options available to you whether you keep or go the adoption route. Find somebody that's not going to try and convince you one way is better than the other.
My heart is really hurting for you. I don't know if you are religious or not but I'll be praying for you and your decision. Good luck.

Answer 5

This is a tuff thing you have to deside, I have a daughter who is 2 (I was 22 when I had her) and I was asking myself the same questions you are.I am single and not working and I often thought that I was doing the wrong thing by keeping her but hun it turned out to be the best thing for me.You have to do what you think is right not what other people think or tell you (trust me they will all give there opinon) depending where you live there is really good help for young parent like daycare and a hole bunch of other things.I am from hamilton ontarioand there are a tune of groups.tonight think of the pros and cons about having this baby.Will it be loved?Will you do the best that you can for this baby?but more important will you regreat and hate yourself for giving him or her up if you really wanted to keep him or her.The best thing someone said to me when I was in this situation wasyou can try your best to look after this baby and if you still cant do it then there is the choice of adoption but you cant put the baby up at birth and have a choice to take it back.After that was aid to me I new that i personally had to try and I know now I mad the right choice and I am so glade I didn't give her away at birth.I hope this help you some what.GoodLuck.I dont know if they will let me put my e-mail address up but I am going to [e-mail] if you want to talk e-mail me if you like.If not Hope all works out for you.

Answer 6

Adoption my dear. It's incredibly difficult to give up a child but the selfless love of a mother and being willing to do what's best for the child is a wonderful thing. It is far more selfish to keep a child you cannot afford than to allow someone else with the means to do so. Many families aren't able to have children. Do the right thing and give your baby to a loving family.

Through an adoption attorney (often paid for by the family) you can work out arrangements to see the child or get pictures. Either way, your child deserves more than being in a home with a mom on welfare and no education.

It's going to be hard but really, your best option is adoption.

EDIT:

Why the hell am I getting two thumbs down for this? Anyone who is advocating a 16-year-old GIRL keeping her baby is insane and clearly doesn't understand the difficulty of child-rearing at such a young age.

Answer 7

Well you have my sympathy. About having sex @ 16, BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are not at the age of having sex. Please relay this to all of you little friends having or wanting to have sex! Right now is not the time!
As for the rest, I advise you to have the baby and give it up for adoption. Like some of the people here are saying, it's better for the child to have a stable home with parents who will care for him/her and give the baby the things you will never be able to like a stable home with mom and dad. I'm assuming you will not marry your baby's daddy. I'm guessing he's around your age too. Think about it, if you keep the baby, you'll have to work, the baby's dad will have to work too, you'll be fighting all the time about money, that you don't have enough, or why can't you go out like normal people, you won't be able to go to college, forget about saving money, forget about friends. Your whole life will crumble into little pieces.
Have the baby but give it up for adoption, you are too young for this and the best thing to do is tell you parents that you are pregnant and that you want to give it up for adoption. They can't tell you not to do it or try to pressure you to keep the child if you don' t want to. It's your baby and you have the responsibility to give it a better future than the one you will offer. Please think long and hard about it. I know you don't want to have an abortion and that is fine but the best thing for you to do besides that is adoption. You'll be better off and so will you baby.

Good Luck and hope you do the right thing!

Answer 8

dont abort it...if u do ur murdering a child that hasnt had a chance at life and never will and if u abort the baby then u will regret it wen ur older and try to have one and dont come out pregnant......i think u shud keep it and see if u have any relatives or close friiends that wud be willing to babysit the baby just until u come home from school and there are sum free daycares like i noe theres a few in new york but i dont noe where u live so try looking up sum free daycares and apply for those goverment issued stuff that pays for groceries...just dont make the baby pay for sumthing tat u did

Answer 9

Gosh I'm sorry but some of you people's answer nd advice is really stupid. Most high schools actually have a teen pregnancy area and some schools have a day care at the school that costs nothing..you should check when school starts back up if it hasnt started already. Your mom is in denial or is a b*tch. Sorry to say
Good luck with everything and I hope it works out for the best.

Answer 10

No matter what you do it's going to be hard. If you have an abortion you'll regret it for the rest of your life, if you put it up for adoption it comes with it's own problems and if you keep it well then you raise it...There's no easy way out but from experience I wouldn't recommend an abortion. Go through with it and give it to some happy couple that can't have kids of their own...Whatever you do good luck