Both my husband and I have good paying jobs. I had a major depression with pshcotic features in Dec 06 and was hospitalized. I have been recovering ever since. I have been working and I am looking to make 35-40K this year. I made 65-70K before I got sick. My husband is on me, telling me I need to work more. But that is what caused me to stress out in the first place. I am trying my best but how do I handle this? Am I being fair?
2007-08-07 11:25:45 · 19 answers · asked by girly girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No offence, but it's your husband that needs to work more. Basically, he's taking a little advantage of you. Hes selfish. Is he even thinking about you? Does he even care about the fact that you worked to much in the past and got a depression? What if that happends again? You should sit down and talk with your husband. It seems like he cares more about money then you. He loves you right? Well, he needs to love you more. I really hope I helped =]]. If that doesn't work, then counseling.
2007-08-07 11:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is being an idiot. You go right on recovering and if the stress of too many hours put you in the hospital you do not need to go right back to doing what made you sick in the first place. You make a decent amount of money at this pace and if your husband works as well you should have enough money to live on. What is it with your husband? Is money more important to him than your health? Is he worried that he is doing more work than you are doing? I would start to take a look at that and then think perhaps it wasn't just long hours that stressed you right into the hospital. I think he has a lot to do with it and perhaps you might do a lot to completing you recovery if you considered not getting more hours to work but working on getting rid of that big ball and chain around your neck
2007-08-07 12:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girlfriend,
I think your husband is only seeing the “green”.
He is probably thinking about the lifestyle you guys had before your health problems and wants to live comfortably again.
He can’t handle the responsibility and that’s fine but he needs to understand that happiness and well-being are priceless.
You can be a much better wife and partner if you are healthy.
Equal household contributions aren’t always monetary.
I am sure that you cook, clean and according to your question, you are working. So maybe if you charged him for meals, clean sheets and that other special duty that wives have to perform on occasion, you’d be making well over that 70K you were making before.
So, yes you are being fair, if he doesnt think you are, that I suggest you put a price on your services
I went through this with my husband and then I told him to kiss my @$$..
2007-08-07 11:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by JaJo7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just turn it around and ask yourself how you would feel if your husband felt all stressed out and wanted to cut back on his working hours, and you were the one who had to continue working full time as usual. And quite honestly, you don't know if that might not be true. Maybe he is all stressed out,. Maybe he was just before you were hospitalized and you just happened to beat him to it. Maybe he is just barely holding on, and the extra pressure of having to act as though he is okay and keeping his work hours and deal with less money coming in is threatening to send him over the edge.
2007-08-07 11:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wants me to work more.?
2014-12-18 17:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take care of yourself, first and foremost. Are your finances struggling without your higher income or is your husband simply used to a higher standard of living?
2007-08-07 11:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~ strryeyedgrrl ~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To balance things if you are not going to work more than you need to spend less. So long as there is a balanc he should be happy.
2007-08-07 11:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You being a freak has nothing to do with working. Billions of people do it without turning into total freaks.
2007-08-07 12:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk!!! Is he not concerned in the least about your health? Take care of yourself first. Tell him all the money in the world is not going to make either of you happy. Happiness is found within. You need to think twice about this marriage. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-08-07 11:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by pinkeee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell hubby "stress is the number one reason women breakdown in the workplace and home and the husband is the number one cause".
You take care of yourself first and foremost and if he wants more money you can sell him to the highest bidder lol.
2007-08-07 11:32:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋