It’s like when I buy a lotto ticket … I genuinely think I’m going to win; but rarely do. This person is notorious for creating promises they can’t keep. In doing so, I suspect they are making these promises to feel acceptance … but they always promise more than what they can do … which is only jive talk. Anyways, I always believe them and get left with empty hopes & promises … how do I stop myself from this pattern?
2007-08-07 11:11:38 · 9 answers · asked by Giggly Giraffe 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe if you understand really how LITTLE that person respects you, then you will see it for what it is.
2007-08-07 11:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Establish your own boundaries-if someone tells you they will call you at a certain time and you are not sure about them and don't want to get dissapointed then tell them straight up-how about I call you, or if you know them well and it is always the same scenario then stop them before they make an empty commitment to you and say hey-don't tell me you are going to call and then not call, because I will sit by the phone and wait and then I will get dissapointed and then I will get mad at you for inadvertently leaving me hanging-and stick to it-call them on it each time-I had to do the exact same thing with my sis-she has a terrible habit of making empty promises and it drives me NUTS!!! Good luck! :)
2007-08-13 17:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop getting your hopes up. you're right, this person does strive for acceptance. to shoot him or her down is not the right thing to do. Just kind of smile and nod next time he or she promises something, but in your mind, just don't believe it. I make many promises I cannot keep. not because i dont wana keep them, but because i am unable to fulfill them due to things beyond my control. I really want to do them, but theres always something that keeps me back.
2007-08-15 09:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself not to believe these promises. Try to tell the other person not to make these promises. Tell the other person you don't believe the promises. Stay away from this person if you can. Tell yourself to walk away if promises are made when you have asked them not to be.
2007-08-14 18:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't have an answer for this, because it seems that I have this problem too. I just keep on going . May be it because we are over givers, want all to be happy, truthful, keep our word. I don't know , but I am not gong to change myself for them. I'll just hope I can use better judgment of character.
2007-08-14 16:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You recognize your problem, your solution is to accept this as a common trait in many people, and take their promises with 'a pinch of salt'. I learned, you can, and will.
2007-08-14 21:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch who you are hanging around because trust is a very important thing.
2007-08-07 11:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by white_and_nerdy_93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are talking about a man there is no hope for that species
2007-08-13 07:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by jvega624 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lightbulb has to really WANT to change
2007-08-07 11:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by Typical White Person 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋