I have been involved with a man that is my ex brother in law for the past 2 years. My sister is cool with it and we all get along great! The only problem i have is my ex husband keeps telling me that is is immoral to be involved with him and therefore my children don't care for him or want him around. But when it is just us and my kids we are happy with the situation it is when he (my ex)calls and tells my children not to like him and that i am doing wrong by being with a man that was with my sister. Please help? I need some advice
2007-08-07 10:05:33 · 7 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If the parties most closely involved don't have a problem with the situation then it is none of your exes business. Your children need to be taught to judge people on their own merits, not by what anyone else tells them. What your ex doesn't realize is that his attempts to turn his children against your relationship with this man will one day turn around and bite him in the butt. It is his job to make sure he has a good relationship with his children, not to tell them what kind of relationship to have with your bf. After all ,no one is perfect. If your bf is a good man and treats you and your children well that is the only thing that really matters.
2007-08-07 10:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people won't date a guy that was with there good friend. I don't think I would feel comfortable sharing a guy with my sister but it's your life and if she is OK with it then there is your answer. Bottom line your ex would have an issue with who ever you dated. Also, all children want there parents that are divorced back together. Tell your ex husband to grow up, get a life, and to get some morals himself because if he was so wonder full you would still be married to him..
2007-08-09 02:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is your ex. Nobody would consider it immoral if your sister had died and you married your widower BIL. It is no more immoral if you are involved with an ex-BIL, even if she is against it. Happily, she is fine with it. Sometimes couples just don't get on with each other and that doesn't make the other person evil.
I think you need to make clear to your ex-husband that your dating has nothing to do with him and he should mind his own business.
2007-08-07 10:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by TotalRecipeHound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an unusual situation, kinda creepy from the outside looking in, but I wouldn't say immoral. You need to handle his emotional manipulation of the children through a court mediator.
2007-08-07 10:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it f**k the ex get u some
2007-08-07 15:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by RALPH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kinda gross.. he was once like your brother and now your dating him.
2007-08-07 10:11:08 · answer #6 · answered by moose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you seem pretty trifling.
2007-08-07 10:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jayda J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋