I am a mother of 3. I have a hard time making friends, I am shy and stay busy. I want friends . What can I do?

Answer 1

Hello, If you children are of school age, I would suggest getting involved at thier school. Room mom, or volunteer for field trips and classroom activities. ITs a great way to meet other mom's with kids the same age, and you get an inside view of your childs day as well. Dont be afraid to be the first one to initiate conversation , Be confident with yourself and the friends will find you.

Answer 2

I have the same problem ever since I moved. I'm a single mom of 2 boys (7 and 10), and work from home. So I rarely ever leave the house it seems. I have no family where I live now and no local friends so taking a night off isn't gonna happen!> I've tried those Mommy and me, or Moms group outings and because I'm younger than the general age group I get hit up for babysitting... (I'm 28), not what I go for. It's been really tough and I look forward to some good advise on here that actually works. Making friends never seemed difficult before I had kids!
Now it's like I'm "auditioning" for friends so we have stuff in common but also have a somewhat similar "moral compass".

Wish you luck!

Answer 3

I know where you're coming from on this one...I'm kind of on the shy side too until I'm comfortable in the setting. My best thing was joining the parent's group at my son's school and ended up volunteering for one of the committees and the other lady and I have become really good friends over the last 5 yrs. Her kids are close to the same age as mine and we have done family get aways together with her family. Another good idea is to check out the happenings at the local library and sign up for some class with your kids if they're younger to meet other Mom's as well as grab some of the newspaper/magazines at the doorway of the grocery store to see what kind of community groups are available that might be of interest to you. I find it's easier to do some of those *group* things if one or more of my kids are able to go along too. Then I don't feel so alone and out of place if I don't know anyone else.

Lastly, like someone said in these answers- see if anyone that has responded (including myself even) that sounds like they are in a similar situation and form some online friends and go from there...good luck, I'm sure you'll figure out what will work best for meeting and making some new friends in no time.

Answer 4

I know that it is hard. Heck it is hard for me I feel as if I have no life. People say try the park that never worked for me to busy with kids lol. do Mom day post flyers where you and other mothers can meet once a month to talk. find a place for contact like a coffee shop a park the mall whatever. and leave a phone number on there so if there interested they can contact you for details this is some thing I been thinking about doing but right now I have a big wedding reception that I have to plan. good luck hun if we lived close to each other I would love asst.

Answer 5

I am im the same boat; mother of two boys 10 and 8. I keep busy with them but feel like my life just revolves around them and honestly I need someone to talk to; I too find it hard to make friends and don't have much time. I find that writing on my journal helps me cope with loneliness sometimes, the internet could be good too if the mothers you meet are local. I live in Miami. I can at least be a penpal :)

Answer 6

You're not too shy if you have 3 kids!!! Just kidding. Take it a step at a time. How about calling the library and find out when storytime is. There will be other mothers there - and you already have one thing in common! If the kids are of school age - a great opportunity is to get involved with school activities. Call the school - tell them you'd like to be involved with the boosters and I'm sure they will take your name and pass it along to someone to call you. You never know - that person may just be your new best friend! Just do it! It is necessary to keep your sanity with kids - and friends do help!

Answer 7

Try "being a good friend" first, and I'll bet that makes you look more attractive as a potential friend.

If you want to feel better about yourself, do something for others. Do SOME volunteer work each week (I know you're busy, but try hard to find time.) Volunteering lets you see people who are less fortunate, and at the same time, exposes you to new potential friends.

The world is filled with lonely people just like you. To break out of it, you have to make the effort. They won't come and find you. The good news is, it is easy, and it's fun.

You don't need a bunch of friends, just one. Someone you can confide in, blow off steam with, who won't judge you. Someone who will listen. If you become that person to someone... SURPRISE! You probably just found your own new friend.

Answer 8

I know how your feeling. I am the father of two boys - 4 and 8. My wife and I both have great careers, and I am back at school to finish my degree. We have many friends, however time with them sometimes seems seldom. During the summer months we try to get together on weekends and a few nights each month.

Sometimes the best things to do are the things, that you would not normally do. Depending on where you live, there are many adult-based classes and events. While some of these may not be to your liking, remember, your goal is to meet people, maybe they will turn out to be a friend, maybe not.

Best Wishes and Good Luck.

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Answer 9

Hi, I read all the answers and they all sounded pretty good as well as being true. I know when my kids were younger most of my friends were parents of their playmates. When you go to a school affair or an extracurricular activity try getting their a few minutes early and/or staying a few minutes late.. Their probably will only be a few people who got there early and would be talking about the event that's going to be happening , there's your common denominator. Same goes for staying late but in reverse. Good Luck!!

p.s. if you get invited to anything ex; tupperware party do your best(I know it's hard) to show up. Don't worry about the money , you'd be surprised how much fun you could have at the event by spending ten dollars of less, money is tight every where and people know this. With three kids you have a built in excuse. Not that you would need one. That really didn't come out right, but you know what I mean.

Answer 10

You know what? I don't think a person should neglect his/her own needs just because of children! I have an 11 year old daughter who is wonderful...and I like to spend lots of time with her. I'm sure you are the same way. Just try to make more time for yourself, and take the time to find friends. I'm sure just doing that would even make you a better mother too! Get online and try to reconnect with old friends...that is a treat in itself! That will make you remember who you were before the kids, and maybe awaken a long forgotten interest in an old hobby. It works!!

Answer 11

Try joining a mommy and me class or if your children are older join the PTA. When I moved to a new neighborhood I joined the PTA and made friends that way. My PTA also had a PTA bowling league, where some of the money went to things for the school-we also had a luncheon at the end of the year. It was not so much the bowling but I joined to meet people. After a while a bunch of us would go for lunch after the bowling and it was a lot of fun. You only have to make one friend and they will introduce you to one more and that one to one more and so on. Good Luck