that they have a problem of their own, what do you do?
A. Tell them about your problem anyway
B. Listen to their problem instead
C. Listen to theirs, then tell them about yours
D. Other
2007-08-07 08:20:35 · 18 answers · asked by ♥ justbnme ♥ 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
B. I always put myself on the back burner. It is who I am. My family & friends always come first.
2007-08-07 09:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♫brokenangel♫ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the friend and how close you are. If it is a best friend, then listen to theirs first and, I bet, they will listen to yours as well. True friends will always lean on each other even as times are tough.
Sandy :O)
2007-08-07 09:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
B.
Of all people.... I know you know what it is like. If you even thought about telling someone your problem while they had one, the minute you finished they might say, "Oh I know what you mean because what I'm going through right now is so bad because.......... "And boom....... they would be off and running with their problem. And you being you...... you'd table your problem then to reach out and help them solve theirs. So If I come to a friend and they speak about their problem..... I keep mine to myself and we focus on theirs. It's just best that way. When we choose to confide, we do so with the hope that we have that person's focus and attention. If we don't, we gain very little but perhaps frustration as we share and then receive nothing in return to help us. So its best to help the friend the way you pray they would help you. And perhaps.... in time.... as they solve their problem..... we can then go to "D"..... (other)..... Your example will show them what it is you need for them to be for you. And if they are a true friend......... they will repay us with guidance and understanding as well.
P.S. (However, at a later time.... I'd like to run by you what happens to me sometimes and see if you have dealt with this as well. Thank you)
2007-08-07 08:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
B listen to their problem
2007-08-07 08:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Saw Dust♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that,,,B. Listen to theirs
If theirs is more significant than mine, I let mine go,,,if not, then I tell them mine..that's what friends are for..
2007-08-07 13:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Boopsie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
D.
ill listen to theirs first and only if they are willing, i will tell them mine!!
2007-08-07 08:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by New York Chic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
C. friends are they to listen and help... you're also there for them to listen and give advice.
Friendship is a 2 way street.
2007-08-07 08:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i would probably forget mine and listen to my friend and try to help solve theirs and hope i can come back with mine on a better day for my friend.
2007-08-07 10:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
B, definitely.......my own takes a back seat. Besides I'm usually better at working on other peoples problems than my own.
2007-08-08 11:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by KAT 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
C....as friends you should be able to lean on one another at any time. I would listen to my friend, try to get them through then spill my guts...it is really double therapy!
2007-08-07 12:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to thiers,then tell them bout yours
2007-08-07 08:28:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋