ive got a huge dilemma with my parents and my boyfreind.im of indian origin and my boyfreind is arab but he's complection is dark like as in black i hope i dont sound racist.my parents dont want me to get married to this person and i love him with all my heart. they say its shameful, bad name for the family. i really dont know what to do i really do love him and i love my parents but my parents are really unfair. its like i have no choice. if i go with him i loose my family and if i stay with my family i loose him.ive been with him nearly two years now and in these two years ive got to know,respect and love this man. I reallly dont know what to do,we are looking to get married in two years when i finish my degree but at this rate i wouldnt know what to do.im so confused hope someone can help, another issue is that he is muslim and im christian thats another problem with my family, he hasnt got a problem with that he is happy for me to practice my faith when we get married.sooo confused
2007-08-07 06:57:04 · 5 answers · asked by alayna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait untill you get married he will make you change your faith or else, i have seen this happen time and time again with these men. Your parents no best.
2007-08-07 07:04:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you live in the US, and that means you have the opportunity to become Americans or maybe you were born here and you are already. That means you are Americans, not Arab's or Indian's. In this country, you are an adult woman who can marry and love who she wants. Its one of the perks of being here, something your parents apparently wanted. Marry who you love. Skin color is on the outside, if you cut both your hand and your b/f's hand, you will bleed the same red blood. I'll bet your children will be beautiful. Best wishes.
2007-08-07 14:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your culture has no morals, no matter what you say. It's all about vanity, shallowness, greed, and envy. You people need to stop pointing the finger at other cultures, and start looking at yourselves. You marry your own cousins, most underage, you sell your children, oh wait, arrange to marry your children off to the highest bidder, sorry, and you're only concern is money. Your culture gives no respect for differences in all of us, so you have none from me. Do what you think is right. You've been dictated to your whole life. Realize that you CAN make your own decisions.
2007-08-07 14:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its your decision and Im sure your parents will end up coming around. I am of white decent and my husband is pakistan..at first his family had a major issue b/c they want for all of their children to marry within the culture..that doesn't happen when we live in America..sorry ...if your parents want that for you maybe they should have never left India in the first place. Anyways..now his family likes me and has no problem with me being his wife and the mother of his child..so I would go for it if your happy and in love.
2007-08-07 14:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by Leigh08 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you both love each other...then get married. It is your life and not your parent's. It is their loss if they decide to disown you for marrying him.
2007-08-07 14:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋