Lately all I can think about is being pregnant and having a baby. I stare at baby equipment websites for hours, picking out what I'd buy, and baby name websites ,thinking about the perfect name. I wander aimlessly around Babies R Us. My sister is pregnant with her first, and I'm thrilled for her, but also find myself so jealous at times My own 2 kids are 6 and 7 years old, I had them at 19 years old and I had always planned on having another one, but I got divorced a year ago. I have a wonderful new man, and he'll be moving in soon. He also wants another baby, and we often talk about having 1 or 2, in a few years. BUT... there are other times when I really stop and think about it and I suddenly become unsure about having another baby. I think about the struggles I have with my own 2 kids, the at-times-overwhelming stress I feel, i think about the expences, about the idea of "starting over", and I'm not sure I want to. I know I would never regret another baby.
2007-08-07 06:52:23 · 6 answers · asked by kayla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
BRAELYNN'S MOMMY: I'm sorry you had such a bad experience, but how dare you question my parenting skills! You don't even know me or my boyfriend. "Responsible adults" only move in together when they're married?! That's a load of crap!
2007-08-07 07:08:01 · update #1
I feel the same way too. Financially we cannot afford another child and ours are 13 and 6. I want a baby soooo bad, but the thought of going back to diapers and late nights tires me out. Make a plus/minus chart and list all the positives and negatives of having more children now and also a few years from now. Talk with your man.
2007-08-07 07:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by biology.teacher 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When in doubt, wait!!!
IMHO, it sounds like you're not quite to a good place in your relationship and life to have one right now. I mean, why not live with the new beau for a while, get to know each other well, maybe get married, then talk about it together.
But that's just my opinion.
Enjoy your sister's baby when it comes. Spend time with her. Enjoy being an aunt -- I LOVE it. My new nephew is one month old, and I LOVE that I can give him back to my brother and his wife when he's being fussy. :-D
2007-08-07 07:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't going to be the popular opinion, but I'm speaking from experience.
Don't let this guy move in with you. You don't want to shack up. Show your children that responsible adults only live together when they are married. Don't have kids with him. The new child will have his total attention and your other two kids will take the back burner. No matter what he says, his own child will get special treatment. Also, you don't want your kids to compete for affection with him. Your kids have been through enough drama and shouldn't have to put up with more just cause you want a man to live with. You had the kids, raise them and then worry about finding a new husband.
Get a dog instead.
2007-08-07 07:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
Even though I knew I never wanted children, there is a biological urge to make them, anyway.
The way I handled it was that I "borrowed" my nieces and nephews for a weekend. After that, I was "cured" for awhile.
2007-08-08 19:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for Rachel L: My brother and I are 11 years apart and we get along great! We're like bffs and he comes to me for a lot of advice that he doesnt want to ask his parents for
2007-08-07 08:01:00 · answer #5 · answered by katiemarie:] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have another child before thier ages get too split apart, if you have the child too late, that child wont be happy, like bunk beds and soccer games together, that child will misss out
2007-08-07 06:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Rachhh 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋