would you consider it to be cheating? If you did it they would know about it and therefore be condoning it, so would it be cheating?
My friend says yes. What do you think???
2007-08-07 06:12:58 · 33 answers · asked by suzie 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, it is still cheating because you're with someone else other than your spouse...
doesnt matter if they gave you permission!
why would your spouse want you to be with someone else in the first place?
thats just stupid!
2007-08-07 06:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not cheating. Cheating is a synonym, almost, for deceiving. If it's with the spouse's permission, it's not cheating. Marriage is best thought of as a contract. Whenever any two people have a contract, any of the terms of the contract may be changed with the consent of both parties. Permission = consent.
I know this to be true because my wife and I are planning for her to have sex with another guy while I watch. I'm looking forward to it. We already had a threesome with another woman a couple of years ago, and that wasn't cheating either. If you're ever in the situation, you can definitely tell the difference between what's cheating and what's not. Being cheated on feels like a devastating betrayal. Sex with others with consent obviously doesn't feel that way at all.
2007-08-07 06:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your mate tells you to it's ok to be with someone else, then they are being very foolish. obviously they don't value you b/c that kind of thing is meant to be special and private between two people and it's not okay to just allow someone to go with someone else.
The idea of breaking that sanction even tho it's "Okay" i wouldn't consider cheating, b/c if you really want to be with someone else that badly then why are you still in a relationship with the person who condoned it? If you care about them why would you do it? They aren't fulfilling your goals in the relationship and again not valuing you. I would get out of a relationship like that, b/c frankly that means that both of you aren't happy if you're willing and they're willing for you to do that with someone else.
The whole relationship seems very much like a front if that kind of condoning goes on. I'm certain that if someone ever gave permission like that and you took advantage of that that they would most definately regret it and i think if you still cared about that person you would regret it too. But if you two don't then...how could it be cheating? You're not really together in the first place.
2007-08-07 06:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, it is still cheating because you're with someone else other than your spouse or whatever. BUT what does it matter if they gave you permission? if they let you do it, they can't get mad at you for it.
but i think even if they do give you permission, be loyal and don't cheat. b/c if you do, it just shows you have/had a desire to do so and that you're not truly faithful.
2007-08-07 06:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont think so. If your mate is aware of it and gave you permission to do it? That's legit. Unless you are not telling the whole story or if you are hiding something from her, then that is cheating.
2007-08-07 06:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by johnmonroe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok the spouse/mate likely wants to do it too and therefore condones it for you!
It's still cheating.
2007-08-07 06:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Something is seriously wrong if your spouse gives you permission to sleep with somebody else. That's number one. Second of all, why would you WANT to do something like that? If you are trying to find a way to justify your need to cheat then you need to get a divorce and move on. But why would you ask something like this?
2007-08-07 06:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
in the eyes of God it could be violating between the ten Commandments via committing the sin of adultery, regardless of if the better half mentioned it grew to become into ok. Any time a married man or woman has intercourse with somebody to whom they are actually not married, that's adultery. this could reason one to no longer bypass to Heaven while Jesus returns to choose the international. does not count number what people think of approximately it. Sin is sin.
2016-12-30 04:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating, by definition is an act of trickery, swindle, to mislead someone or fool someone...if they have given you permission then you're not cheating....you're committing adultery which by definition is: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the spouse
2007-08-07 06:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it's not cheating but you had better have a very strong relationship before you invite someone else into your bed. If you do and you do it can be wonderful.
2007-08-07 17:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋