We were having a conversation about our relationship and I mentioned something about my tatoos and he said, "That's another thing, I said I would never marry a woman who smokes or has tatoos." Ditto with the smoking. My tatoos are not gaudy, and are only visible if I so choose and two of them I got after we got together. He only found out about the first one after he saw me naked. I made the statement that it is silly to say you won't be with someone because they have tatoos. I asked him if he would have left me or not even approached me had he known I had a tatoo and he said its different with me. How is it any different? Would it not be the same with anyone you are dating and getting to know? If you don't like it you just don't like it no matter what the circumstances?
2007-08-07 05:39:06 · 25 answers · asked by MeMe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So far I see a lot of you share my thoughts as to question how many wives he planned on having. It's funny bcuz I asked him that and he said I was tryng to flip the script. Whatever, just admit you are Cuckoo for my cocoa puff, right?!!
2007-08-07 05:58:24 · update #1
Then again some of you sound just as superficial as he did when he made that comment.
2007-08-07 06:00:59 · update #2
Even though I have nothing against tattoo's (I have six) I at one time said that I would never date much less marry any woman who smoked. Well guess what I met this one lady who smoked, fell in love got married and had three kids together. Mabye he is trying to tell you how he used to feel before he met you.
To me the important thing should be you know that he has this thing about tatto's but he loves you so much he see's past that and wants to be with you anyway. Give the guy some slack. He shouldn't have said it the way he did but I think he ment well.
2007-08-07 07:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by gymrat0187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend, (yes, ex) said he hated tattoos on women and thought that they were trying to act like "dudes". He said I better never get one! This was after I told him that I wanted one. One thing that I noticed, he would always make a big deal when he saw a girl with one! It was an ice breaker for him, and he would make a big fuss and tell them how nice he thought they were! Well, when I said that I had always wanted one, he said no way, that they made women look like sluts! I made my appointment for the next day and got one anyway! Funny thing, he was always looking at it, and hated it when I showed it to other people, especially other men. It is on my left shoulder, and not in any private place. Also, I might add, he has many tattoos, on his chest, legs and arms!! I'm not sure about your husband, but in my ex's case, I'm sure that his reason for not wanting me to have a tatoo was because of his own insecurities. Now I have two, and I just love them!!
2007-08-07 05:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by joyceann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently he loves you enough to overlook the tatoos or he would have stuck to his guns on that one. Maybe it's different for him because he was attracted to you from the start, so he was able to drop the tattoo stigma. If he had met another woman that he was not attracted to, the tattoo would have been revolting to him, thus making her a no go. I said I would never marry a man who smoked or drank but guess what? I married an Irish drunk who smokes like a chimney. Because I love him, I was able to overlook those 2 flaws.
2007-08-07 05:44:20 · answer #3 · answered by kikio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your husband and the only way I can explain it is it is my personal choice. I do not want people to see tattoos on my husband at the beach or lake, or have him be one of those old grandpa's with a tattoos everywhere. I was raised as tattoos being low-class and cast a negative view on the individual. I do not want my children to have tattoos and how do I explain that when my husband has them? Would not marry a guy with tattoos because it is ultimately a bad reflection of myself...
2007-08-07 05:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a few twisted ideas ,he claims to hate tattoo's but stays with you tattoo's and all . It is not the tattoo's that make or break a person it is the personality that is important.I personally don`t like tattoo's on me but some i have seen on others are OK , But i would not reject some one because they have tattoos or smoke .You take them for what they are and not appearance
I think he did hate tattoos but must except them or lose you and he wants to keep you.
So he may be not moncho enough to admit he was wrong
2007-08-07 05:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably has/had preconceived notions about women with tattoos and as a result makes/made blanket statements about them. The Its Different line usually means that you are the exception to that blanket statement and thus more than acceptable in their brains.
2007-08-07 05:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with him. I would never get into a relationship with a woman that had a tattoo. They make a woman that would be 9 without one become no more than a 3, especially mothers. He has my vote!
2007-08-07 05:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Open mouth insert foot. Tattoos do not make the person... is what he meant to say? I would have slapped him a good one and took him to the tattoo parlor and made him get a big heart on his a**.
2007-08-07 05:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how some people don't like tattoos but to say they would never marry anyone who has them is extremely shallow. It means they aren't looking at the personality but at the outside and trust me marriages based on that don't work at all. One of my friends once told me I was going to hell because of my tattoos and I just said well I will see you there then and laughed in his face.
2007-08-07 05:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why do you care? He probably had a negative image of smokers and people with tattoos. Maybe you changed his mind.
He probably saw something inside you that was more important to him than his dislike of tattoos.
Just focus on being happy
2007-08-07 05:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋