Does anyone feel like the sentiment that if a woman isn't a piece of 'azz' she's not worth zero still?

Question

In our society it's not so apparent as it may have been 100 years ago, but I remember especially growing up and in high school that idea was still there. If a woman is beautiful and intelligent, she has so much going for her, if a woman is ugly and intelligent, she's only worth so much. Even other woman have this over-sexed ideas, even beautiful woman who complain about it! They all try don't they?

Sometimes I wish I was invisible or that I could disquise myself as a man, so that I could be human and it's so frustrating because it's not so blantantly obvious anymore is it? Sometimes, I'd rather be dead than be a woman these days.

Sorry, I'm drunk, my self esteem isn't usually so bad...

Answer 1

I agree with you to a point.... I think it's fairly obvious that women do face more pressure to be "pretty" than men do. I do not think that her looks are the defining factor to her success in the business world, but I do think being good looking will help you, regardless of your sex (I've read a few conflicting studies about this).

When it comes to dating, if I'm talking to a girl (good looking or not), and she is confident, funny, smart, and kind, I would be interested in her. I don't consider myself to be exceptionally good looking. I don't consider myself to be exceptionally ugly (theres a link in my profile to my 360 if you're curious to see me), but I have dated girls on both ends of the spectrum. I realize that I am not like most guys, but at the same time, it does show you that there are guys like this.

Many girls claim that they only look to the inside when it comes to guys, yet they get upset when some jerk isn't into them because of their looks. If that's the case, then how are you into him to start with? He clearly does not have the personality you're claiming to be attracted to, so what does it matter?

Anyway, I hope ya cheer up. Everyone is worth something, and if you are confident, kind, and smart, you'll have much more success in every aspect of your life.

Answer 2

Don't blame the drink, Skunkie, you are only expressing what many women feel and for good reason. We all say that we want to be accepted and appreciated for our intelligent minds, while we go shopping for high heels, bustiers, and low cut outfits, have our hair and nails done, and make sure that we look like sex pots. It is a dichotomy that is making us nuts. The media tells us we need to do this, and we go blindly along, while in our subconscious minds we know it isn't what we really want.
We are bright, well read, and can converse on more than what Britney and Paris did last night. But judging by the popular press, women in the US shouldn't even try to bother their little heads with more than what's in style, how to lose weight, and what's up with their favorite celebrities.
Something needs to change, and the only way it can is by boycotting all of that BS. I don't watch it on TV, I don't buy their stupid magazines, and I only wear what I think looks good on me - I don't care if it is the latest fashion or not.
Oh, and you wouldn't catch me dead in a bustier and high heels.

Answer 3

I think a lot of how a woman is judged is how she perceives herself. Even a beautiful woman can be seen as ugly if her personality is ugly or she has low self esteem.

I think this attitude is largely a teenage attitude and most people grow out of it and are able to see beyond what one looks like.

However if you feel this way and you are not still a teenager I would analyze how you are letting others see you. Are you welcoming to people? Do you say hi? Do you laugh at appropriate times? Do you respect others opinions even if yours are different? etc.

If you are doing all of this and still feel you are being treated unjustly, I would look at who you are allowing yourself to be around.

Honestly I think I am a fairly good looking person, I eat right and exercise, try to take care of myself. But I know I am not the most beautiful person around, but I get treated well.

Sometimes attitude accounts for more beauty that how you look does.

Answer 4

I don't agree with the idea that if a woman isn't a piece of azz she is not worth zero. I think Society at large has given males the ability to think likes this and sadly enough the same society condones it. I think women are forced fed this ideal from day one be it with media image, magazines, Friends, and even family at times.
Beauty is truly a curse on the world.

Answer 5

I think it depends on the views of the man. All men don't hold true to this sexist attitude all of the time, but it does seem to be hardwired into their DNA, especially the more hard core testosterone driven males (super macho). Face it, humans are visually oriented and attractive people -male & female- are usually held in a higher regard because they are more pleasing to the eye and that does have a huge effect on how others perceive and treat you. I love being a woman and I'm not mad at men for being the sexual beings that they are.

Answer 6

I always hated being female for the same reasons. When I was 14 yrs old, I became anorexic trying to be accepted by society. As a child I always saw my father idolize beautiful women and my mother accepted it. I am the oppositte. I'm 27 yrs old and I b**ch my husband and his friends out for degrading women. I am not overwieght and I try to look good for my husband but I always feel like there is too too much competition out there. I feel like I dont have the choice to not care about how I look. I remember growing up I use to wear very tight sports bras to hide my boobs and I wore a cap and dressed like a boy. I always hated being whistled or honked at. I wish men would look at women from the neck up. People need to value a person as a human being and stop looking at it as male or female. When Im drunk it pisses me off more so I understand.

Answer 7

"My teacher tells me beauty is on the inside."
"That's just something ugly people say."

haha kidding, its from a movie!

I agree with what you're saying about the general thinking of today's society. There is alot of pressure on females to conjure up the looks and beauty shown to us on a daily basis by the media--we hear it all the time. What can we do about it? Sadly, there's not much, except just be true to yourself and do things that make you feel good.

Thinking that you'd rather be dead than be a woman does not say much about your self esteem, however. There's alot more to life than you may think. Start searching!

Answer 8

i am/ 54 years old/ never heard/ that expression/it is /up to the women /as to how /she lets/ the man/ treat her

Answer 9

Men do not feel, these are women who do feel like this.

Answer 10

hi,.Skunk Pie,.
-that tomato sauce bath is still making me itchy,. sorry,.