4 kids and pregnant again...help?

Question

Me and my husband have three boys, 9,6,and 5. we also have a daughter, 6 months. I just found out I was pregnant again, and am scared to death, has anyone gone through this? Or any good advice. thank you. we were using protection, so not trying to be irresponsible

Answer 1

Get your tubes tied (after the baby is born) our tell your hubby to get a vasectomy.

Answer 2

I understand about protection, I am 4 months along thanks to the so called protection. (but i wanted another child just not yet so its still OK) Do you want this child?Can you afford, or find away to make it work? How is your mental health? ( I do not mean anything by this last question just that with 4 kids and 1 on the way people can feel extremely overwhelmed and depressed) Ask yourself this questions, maybe even talk to a therapist about your situation. You are going threw a scary time and its OK to be scared. Sit down with your husband and talk to him, explain your feelings and get his feelings, I am sure you two are probably feeling alot of the same things right now. Good luck, also surf the web for a local mommy group in your area, they do wonders for your self esteem.

Answer 3

It's tough because you become more fertile when you just have a baby. What you need to do is have a talk with your husband, and figure out what you want to do. Living arraignments, financial. There is help that you can get if you decide to keep the baby. You may figure that another child just isn't practical, and you may want to go through an abortion. I don't really like adoption because a part of you will be living with someone else, and when they find out where they come from things might get even harder later in life. Get W.I.C., and no it's not just for low income poor people. W.I.C. will give formula, rice cereal, milk, eggs, cereal, juice, cheese, and it really saves in the pocket. You can also get vouchers for farmer's markets for fruits and vegetables. Also check to see if your local area has a diaper bank. They will give free diapers. The choice will be hard, but with good communication between yourself and your husband I'm sure you will be able to make the right decision. Good Luck

Answer 4

I have not gone through this nor do I know anyone who has had similar circumstances. Good luck to you and remember that everything happens for a reason. I firmly believe that God won't give you more than you can handle, so you will be fine!
I agree with others, I would check into having my tubes tied (I had mine done after 2 kids when I was 26 y and it is great) if you are done having children after this. Best wishes to you and your hubby!!

Answer 5

It'll be ok. Having a big family can be a real joy..or a real pain. It's what you make of the situation. My grandmother had 6 kids, all no more then a year and a half apart and she told me that it was the greatest joy of her life. She could've made it into something horrible but what would be the sense in that? It was obviously meant to be or it wouldn't have happened. After this one if you're sure you don't want anymore either you or your partner should get "fixed". It'll be alright though..think of the positive in the situation. I'm happy for you!

Answer 6

When my husband and I got pregnant with my son we where on birth Control and using condoms. My son came 9 mmonths later. That was Two years ago. we are now 38 weeks with our second (girl) and everything is all normal. I guess the advice you need to hear is different than what your gonna get from everyone. Your going to be fine your going to need to focus on you 6 onths old and on teaching the basics of wheres the baby. Your going to be fine . It will be a bit harder this time around but good luck and have fun!!!!!

Answer 7

well, at least your older 3 are old enough to offer SOME help. Talk to your family and see if anyone can offer some aid with babysitting and such.

Once you're over the initial shock, you will be happy. This way your youngest has a playmate closer to her age... I am sure she will be glad of that.

My husband got a vasectomy after we had our 2nd... he had it done WHILE I was still pregnant, so no chance of getting the "leftovers". He was fully recovered in 3 days, and has NO emotional or physical side effects of the surgery (other than sterility). Our health insurance covered it 100%.

Answer 8

Have lots of patience. I think I would get my tubes tied or my husband a vasectomy after this one is born. It will add to the wildness of the house and put more stress on you emotionaly and financialy. But you will cope with the added things just like you did with the last one. You will do just fine, stop worrying so much.

Answer 9

Well I have 4 kids. But my first two came 14m apart and my last two came 14m apart. So it can be done! You are already an expierenced mom so that will be a huge help. You will also find it helpful that you have older ones to help out with your 6 month old. I know even my four old is a huge help. So congrats and try not to stress to much, it will all work out. Congrats!!!

Answer 10

Any relatives or friends that can't conceive? A give for them as an "open adoption?

Or abort. There is nothing wrong with a mother knowing when she can care well for no more children. And it would be seen as a miscarriage.

Any "mourning" you must do over the event can be handled by any competent counselors.

Good luck.

Answer 11

I am not sure what to tell you on having this 5th baby. But if you are wanting another type of protection, get an IUD or your tubes tied. Best wished, you'll need them :)