when my wife gets dressed up and goes out with her sister(s) or her sister in law, even if I Know that she is a faithfull and respectful. But, I know that she attracts the view of men, shes is petite 5 2, 160 lbs, with a killer *** and beautiful face. WE've been married for 20 years, but I still kind of jealous, WHAT CAN IT BE OR HOW CAN I not Be Jealous.?
2007-08-07 04:50:32 · 13 answers · asked by margarito r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't. Just keep trusting her, and don't let your jealousy get out of control. As long as you do this you'll be fine, some jealousy is healthy, reminds you of why you're with someone and how you really feel about them.
2007-08-07 04:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling Jealousy is frustrating, annoying, painful and even embarrassing. If left unchecked, jealous feelings and jealousy can single-handedly destroy an otherwise good or even great relationship.
When it comes to overcoming jealousy, no matter how it shows up inyour life, it doesn't go away until it is acknowledged and there is a strong desire to do whatever is necessary tochange and heal it. If you have this problem, you can't point your finger outward at others. You have to be committed to changing yourself.In fact, jealousy is almost never just about the jealousy itself and what seems to be happening on the surface like your partner flirting with another person. It's usually about whatever is lurking underneath that needs to be uncovered and dealt with. It might be a broken heart from a previous relationship or it might be low self esteem issues that you've had from a young age.Jealousy can creep in when you least expect it and it's always a signal to look within and discover what's underneath it.
besides, SHE'S YOURS. no one can have her. Too bad for those other guys. I'm sure your wife loves you, or else she wouldn't be your wife. Just trust her.
2007-08-07 05:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by helpinghand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok to be a little jealous. As long as you don't become violent or belittle her about it. Men can look. Its what she does that matters anyway. And if you know she's faithful and respectful, let it go. Be a little jealous and do whatever you like to do when she goes out.
2007-08-07 04:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok to be a little jealous. If you didnt care at all that other men noticed her and you were neglectful of her, I would think you were a foolish man. Just dont let your jealousy rule your relationship. It sounds like you have a good thing and you know it. Take care of her and love her.
2007-08-07 04:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by CaliGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural for Males to be that way. I am as well when she goes out or i am traveling,but i think that's one way of not taking your wife for granted. Don't use it against her,sounds as if you don't you've been married 20 keep up the good marriage.
2007-08-07 04:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you love her so much and you do not want to loose her. Or you might be insecure..
If your wife really loves you, you need to trust her because she should be able to go out. My husband is the same way with me but he never wants me to go out because he is extremely jeolous. He finds a way to jeopadize me from going out. To me he is very selfish because I let him go out and I am fine with that however, when it's my turn he starts an argument..
2007-08-07 04:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about healthy!?! Jealousy, is a negative emotion, though natural and very common, I wouldn't call it healthy. Simply because it stems from insecurities within ones self, and this can be extremely destructive. That to me, certainly isn't HEALTHY!
2007-08-07 04:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to be but u need 2 watch it, how? wen d tot comes u tell it off sharply.Or u comment on how cute she looks and say in ur mind i love u and i know u wont cheat on me.
2007-08-07 05:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by eyitemtem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just play around... thinking too much of that will make you feel more jealous, trust is very important in a relationship. if you are secure that she loves you, then theres nothing to worry about.
2007-08-07 04:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by hiei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's healthy for you to be jealous, keeps you on your toes so that you will learn to treasure your wife more.
2007-08-07 04:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋