im 14 and my brother is 16...so its only two years really..in a couple of months hes gunna be 17 and i will be 15...my brother is allowed to do just about anything he wants...my mum will let him go into town on his own on the bus, she'll let him go to parties even if she doesnt know the persons house it is and she'll leave in whilst we go away on holiday if he doesnt want to come...my brothers even been to parties and got drunk at 15 and had parties whilst my parents are away without them knowing...im not allowed to do anything like that...im not allowed into town on my own, if my parents went away i would have to go and if i wanted to see a mate my mum would have to know them first...iv never done anything behind my parents back and iv never got drunk or anything...not saying i want to...but why does my mum let my brother do just about anything he likes when he has done stuff behind her back before...why does she not let me do anything like that???
2007-08-07 04:42:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
For the first answer it does not matter if she can get pregnant and he can't if he did get a girl pregnant he would still be responsible for the welfare of the child just as much as she would be.
You need to sit down and talk to your mum about this if you really feel that you are not being treated the same way as your older brother you should bring this to her attention. Don't pick a time to ask when your brother is around wait until he has gone off to one of his parties or into town on his own then ask because then you have a real example of the double standard that is in your household. ask your mum in a very nice non-confrontational way about this matter, don't give her a reason to be mad at you.
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-08-07 06:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not fair, especially to you but it is the way the world is.
A girl can get pregnant. She is more likely to be the victim or rape. A 14 or 15 years old girl who seems free is a better target of bad people out there.
Now if the girl is very supervised (like her date has to meet the parents first) and has curfew, then bad people will less likely bother her and move to easier targets.
It is not that your parents trust you or not. Your mother was a young girl once and she knows how it was. Your brother is not such a worry for your parents because he's a guy, probably hanging out with a bunch of other guys, everybody watching out for everybody else.
Most of the time, the people being taken advantage of are the innocent, physically weaker, young girls so they need more protection. It is for your own good and I hope you protect your daughter in the future, as your parents protect you now. Give them peace of mind by letting them know about your whereabouts and your acquaintances.
2007-08-07 12:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Howard 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think our parents trust our brothers more than us. I'm the oldest so I sort of have the reversed problem.
When I was in fifth grade, I HAD TO go to bed at 8:30 I was not allowed to stay up till 10:00 until I was going into 6th (and it was because my HW held me up) And this year I was finally alowed to walk around town, but I had to have a crowd around me and I could go nowhere exept the library. And my parents are saying that I am very mature for my age.
NOw my little brother is going into 6th grade and he has benn staying up till 10:00 ever since I was going into 6th grade. He has as much freedom as me now and is the most imature person ever (ask his classmates and my neighbors.) And our town has to be the QUIETEST town in the WORLD!!!
I think it is because we are girls and our parents think that we will get ourselves knoked up or be raped if we dont have protection of a crowd. which I think is totally wrong. I mean if some drunk guy just keeps blocking our way on the road and we use whatever we learned to gat away form him, kwe handeled it well and did what we were suposed to. but in our parents eyes it was a chance to get raped and we acted wrong.
Your best bet it to bring all your complaints to them in an organized manner to make yourself look mature.
EDIT: AND TO EVERYONE WHO SAYS IT IS RIGHT TO PROTECT HER OR SHE COULD GET PREGNANT: What about her brother. I dont see her drinking and getting drunk!!! He is. And her brother could get someone else's "Little Girl" pregnant and so why not protect him from being a father. AND GUYS GET RAPED TO. okay so it is not as much but WHO CARES they still could.
I mean come on!!!!!! She is the victim. People think that girls are the only vonerable ones. WE can very well defend ourselves. My parents NEVER let me wear a skirt to school until it was a part of my uniform because I could have gotten raped for wearing one. Really! then I'll wear pants for the rest of my life and when a raper says take off the pants or die. I'll just leave 'em on. COME ON WE ARE NOT STUPID WE KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! we have since 1st grade scream and run.
2007-08-07 12:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by Catholic 14 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
For one, you are only 14, and he is 16. This is a large age difference right now. When you turn 15 or 16, then it wont seem as much of a gap. Also, you are a girl. Girls are always protected more by parents. We can get pregnant and are at a higher risk to get raped than men are. They are just trying to protect you.
2007-08-07 11:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your mum is just being protective because she cares about you. You have the rest of your life to go out on your own and to parties anyway. Maybe you could talk to her and tell her you need to go out by yourself and learn to be independent, try to persuade her to give you a chance to prove that you'll be fine. Maybe you could start by just going out to local shops or something first so that she feels more comfortable with you being on your own and gradually build up, staying out a bit longer each time or going a bit further away. You could take a cell pone and promise to ring her or text her every so often to let her know you are ok.
2007-08-07 11:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by OneT 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's cuz ur the youngest and a girl. They don't wanna let you go. Just tell them that you don't think it's fair. Ask them for a chance to do this stuff. They'll probably say "We just don't think your old enough." tell them you've never done anything wrong and shouldn't distrust you. Just talk to them and find out their reasons. If you have to tell them about some stuff your brother did and how you've never gotten in trouble yet they trust him more, I'd say they need to know sometime.
2007-08-07 11:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, if you're the youngest, it's understandable. Parents want the youngest to be around forever. But maybe when you're 16 they'll start to loosen their reins on you. In the mean time, just be mature about everything and it also helps to not get into any trouble.
2007-08-07 12:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by reillyj1989 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The same thing happens to me except my brother is younger than me!! My parents say its cause hes a boy and me being a girl means that i have a higher chance of being kidnapped/raped and i could get pregnant
2007-08-07 11:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lets play Russian Roulette 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
are you a girl? if your a girl its because they always do that! parents just always let boys have more freedom even if the girl is more mature. just tell your mom that you want to do things and that you mature enough to go out into the world on your own.
2007-08-07 13:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~raspberrytruffles~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to protect you cuz alot of bad things can happen to girls with more serious consequences than happening to guys. And if you are the youngest your mom probably doesn't want you to grow up. But respect her and if you want to go to a party just introduce you mom to the persons parents it may seem embarrassing but that is what i do and most of the time it works
2007-08-07 11:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by E Fuller 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋