pregnancy at young and married?

Question

i asked this question earlier but i am still confused. me and my husband have talking and i think that am really ready for a baby and i know i can take care of it but i just want to finish school

don't get me wrong he has a great job make around 27 an hour

Answer 1

Wait until you are finished with school completely and have had a steady job for at least a year. Then begin trying to have a child. What if you had the baby and something went wrong with your marriage? You would have no means of support or no skills without finishing school first. Be mature enough to get yourself settled and taken care of before trying to be mature enough to care for a child. I'm not saying that you are not mature, dont get me wrong, but it is best if you get your life on track first before bringing another life into the picture. This way you will have no regrets.

Answer 2

I am 20 years old and I am married with a nine week old baby boy. I was 19 when my husband and I eloped, with the approval of our parents. I got pregnant two months after we were married. It was unplanned, but we both loved and believed in eachother enough to face this obstacle. We both finished high school, I just ended my second year of colege and he is serving in the NAVY. I was in school pretty much up until my son's birth. I passed all of my classes, my son is healthy and my husband supports us both. It was the best decision of my life. Just follow your heart, but if you have to question what you want to do, then you may not be ready. Good luck!

Answer 3

Dont let him convince you if you think its time then you will know. I live in GA and let me tell you even though my husband and i have been married for a year and he is 23 and im 20 they still look at us like we are 2 young and it makes me so angrey how dare they judge me. I know what i am doing and our child is going to have an amazing life with her 2 parents who love her so very much. My whole family was even negative at first so just think about all of this before u try to get pregnant. Be strong and just do what YOU think is right.

Answer 4

If you really want a child, then why wait? If your goal is to graduate from school (college I am guessing).... then do that! It is important to you to graduate right? Because if it wasn't then why would you continue to attend? Having a child changes everything... honest. But I am sure you have heard that before.

Make sure that both of you are ready for a child. Lay out a plan because planning things will help you out in setting priorities.

I am 29 and have been married for 3 years and we are seeing a fertility specialist since? I have not been able to conceive. We are planning everything and know that me going back to school to complete a second degree will help us out immensly. So, while we are waiting between cycles to get pregnant I am attending college, but that's what I have planned with my husband.

Best of luck in everything!!!

Answer 5

i was married at 18 and had my first baby a week later, then we had another child whten i was 20. we ended up in a divorce about 18 months ago and i am now 23 and expecting a 3rd baby with my boyfriend. i am very happy with my kids and my life. Even as far as the divorce went it was a good one. It had nothing to do with us being young and definatly nothing to do with having kids. I love the fact that when i am 40, all my kids will be out of my house and i will have the time, money, and energy to go play. Those who have kids at 35 may be better set up financially to have kids, but i love having them young. I feel it gives me an edge to understanding them better when the get a bit older because i will be closer in age than some other parents are.

Answer 6

From your other question:

"she is already in college and is married but she still not over 18"

NOOO

Not ready.

And, can you imagine an adult saying trying to use "he has a great job make around 27 an hour" as a predictor of good fathering abilities? Not likely. It's not all about money.

Ideally, kids get parents who: have a stable relationship, a good education, and a good income. It is possible to do a good job with only two of the three. It is extremely hard to do it well with only one. With zero -- which is what teen-agers have -- it's not exactly recommended. See below for the likely outcomes...


"Teen mothers are more likely to drop out of high school.[7] One study in 2001 found that women who gave birth during their teens completed secondary-level schooling 10-12% as often and pursued post-secondary education 14-29% as often as women who waited until age 30.[47]

...One study found that, in 1988, 60% of teenage mothers were impoverished at the time of giving birth.[48] Additional research found that nearly 50% of all adolescent mothers sought social assistance within the first five years of their child's life.[7] A study of 100 teenaged mothers in the United Kingdom found that only 11% received a salary while the remaining 89% were unemployed.[49] Most British teenage mothers live in poverty, with nearly half in the bottom fifth of the income distribution.[50]

One-fourth of adolescent mothers will have a second child within 24 months of the first...

...The occurrence of developmental disabilities and behavioral issues is increased in children born to teen mothers...

Poor academic performance in the children of teenage mothers has also been noted, with many of them being more likely than average to fail to graduate from secondary school, be held back a grade level, or score lower on standardized tests. [7] Daughters born to adolescent parents are more likely to become teen mothers themselves.[32][7] A son born to a young woman in her teens is three times more likely to serve time in prison.[56]"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teenage_pregnancy#Socioeconomic_and_psychological_outcomes

Answer 7

Do what feels right, if finishing school first is so important to you than wait until you're done, so that you feel 100% ready for a baby. But I will tell you that you can do both, go to school and be pregnant. You can try online classes, etc.

Answer 8

I think you are a little to young, but if you both feel that you are ready, then who are we to tell you that you are not.

Answer 9

Are you trying to convince him to have kids?? I think that its a bad idea for either of you to do anything before you are ready.

Answer 10

No. Stop it.

Borrow a baby for a weekend and see how that works.

A baby is not a toy.