I have been with my husband for five years. We have one child and one on the way. Over the years we have basically turned into roomates and have no sparks left in our marriage. We have been through many things over the years, infidenlity on his part, him feeling inferior due to my salary from my job. What can I do to bring back that "spark" and make our marriage last?
2007-08-07 04:38:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you can bring it back. Although it may take some time. The infidelity part must be resolved between the two of you and trust brought back into the relationship first. Since you mentioned his infidelity, then you are probably still hurting.
Maybe a therapist, or your family clergy can help. I would go with the clergy as they are free, and it brings up those 'moral' issues that need to be there to begin with.
Once that is started, then start doing special things for your loved one. Take the children to grandma's or aunts house for a day. Go out on a date with your husband, and smile alot. Smiling works miracles. Hold hands, kiss each other. The romance and love is still there, it just needs a good kick start again.
Good luck.
2007-08-07 04:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by llongoria0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to work at it! Take yourself back to when things were good & recreate it always - if you usto go dancing - make a date to go dancing again - find that sitter - figure out a way. If you usto take walks in the park - go out to dinner - have romantic lingerie or candles - whatever it was that brings you back to when times were good.
All relationships go through periods of "relality" - there's no getting around it - but you must always keep in mind the qualities that drew you to love that person.
2007-08-07 04:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sitter and go to a hotel for the weekend. have a nice romatic dinner and a night of romantic love... with out the kids...
having children tentds to get in the way of a relationship. dads feel left out sometimes as the mother spends all her energy on the kids... give him some more attention by doing little special things for him...
2007-08-07 04:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"In love" is only seeing the good in a person and dreaming of a perfect life together.
"Loving" is accepting someone completely (good&bad). Its knowing and learning more about someone while still accepting them.
You CAN NOT MAKE someone else happy, but you can share your happiness with others.
Being happy is attractive
The stronger you are as a person the stronger couple you can be.
Being true to yourself allows other to know you better and love you more.
People want to be with their equals, NOT an inferior or a superior, but and equal.
2007-08-07 05:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him he still is your knight in shining armor-wip out a can of cream put it all over him or get in the tub together ect. You need to puff him up hun,I hope you didnt do anything to show him up as far as pay goes. Show him how mucgh you need him.....
2007-08-07 04:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋