I have been in love with a boy named Jake for over two years now. He lives very far away and I really don't have much of a way of contacting him anymore. I know where he goes to school and his address, but I have no way of getting there as he is so far away and I am only seventeen. Every night, literally, for the past two years or so, I have cried myself to sleep holding his picture. I've tried to get over him, but as love goes, I can't. I think about him often, and many times, it makes me happy. But more often, I cry because I fear I'll never have him, and I probably won't. I'm so in love with this boy and I don't know what to do. A few people have said I'm not really in love, but I know I am in my heart. I just am at a loss. My depression is getting worse and worse each day. Please, no rude or obnoxious answers, only serious ones.
2007-08-07 04:04:30 · 15 answers · asked by Neal S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Also, please don't just suggest I get over him because I can't. I'm in love with him and would do anything for him. I've tried dating another guy, but all I could think about is Jake, so that didn't work out.
2007-08-07 04:08:43 · update #1
Don't you think it's time to re-evaluate your life and get on a different path? You can't be enjoying this path you're on.
2007-08-07 04:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I don't mean to be rude and I am very serious... Do real people actually cry themselves to sleep EVERY night while clutching a picture of their lost love? I thought that only happened in fairy tales.
Sweetie, get over yourself and quit with the drama!
Now I assume Jake is aware that you love him? God I hope so! If you are seventeen and this Jake lives in the same country as you and you have his address then why don't you drive to see him over the summer break or take a bus to see him or fly? Keep in touch with him by letter, email, telegraph, telephone, this is the year 2007, ya know... it's not like you don't have a means by which to communicate long distance. You won't be 17 forever you know. Soon you will be able to come and go as you please legally too.
Does this boy even know you exist? Baby, maybe you should seek out some counseling. It might do you some good.
Good luck!
2007-08-07 11:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by roj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was completely in love with someone when I was 17 (I am years away from being 17) and I remember how painful it was. And, yes, I really was in love just like you. People dismiss the feelings of young adults very quickly, I'm sorry if that's happening to you. I say, listen to the radio and you may notice that ALOT of the songs are about unrequited love or love lost, or "can't be with my baby..." Love him, miss him, make art for him -- write songs, build huge crazy sculptures, take photographs of every beautiful thing that you want to share.
And it sounds like you are maybe not get any loving support in your life -- find some that's close by. I don't mean date someone else, I mean find a friend who you can talk this over with and if that's hard find a teacher or a counselor who can talk to you about your life in general -- it's lonely out there. If you get yourself some good support locally you might be able to figure some things out about how to put your life together the way you want it.
2007-08-07 11:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by OceanSwimmer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you don't have much of a way of contacting him but you know his address so why don't you just write him a letter? He may write back and who knows what may happen. And just so you know, you're not alone. Many people have felt that same way. I used to be in love with someone who lives half a mile away from me and I can't even see or talk to that person for a whole year.... almost two. But yeah I got over that person.
2007-08-07 11:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Soa's Fate~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your situation a few years ago...I was in love with this girl who moved back to her home state. Now me and this girl went on a few dates we connected so well but when she moved we lost all contact. Now to make the long story short about 3 years later we got in contact again and now she is my girlfriend and we have been together for over a year and some change now. So I'm pretty much trying to tell you to move on for the time...One day you never know you may get in contact with him and you might have him back in your life for good. Just don't lose hope!
2007-08-07 11:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you mean by no way of contacting him. Is he far away as in another country? Is he returning your feelings? You can't force a relationship if he doesn't want it as much as you do. But if you're sure he does, maybe you can pay him a visit. If it's possible to move closer to him, you can make plans to do that. You sound young, maybe not living independently yet. Make sure you have the means to support yourself before you make any decisions.
I'm in a similar situation as you are. My girlfriend is on the other side of the earth with no chnace of moving back to me. So I'm planning to move over to where she lives, so we can be together.
If you want something that much, there is always a way.
2007-08-07 11:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Theres something about Jake"
I don't know what to suggest to you?
Since you have his adress, why dont you write him a letter. Tell him how you feel, and see what happends.
Whats the worst that could happen? His far away, so he either replys or doesnt.
You are not at loss either way.
Good Luck
2007-08-07 11:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to cringe from the "thumbs-down" I'm going to get, but this is necessary.
YOU NEED to focus on the possible, not the impossible, honey. If this guy harbored any feelings for you, he would have contacted you by now. There is absolutely no point wringing yourself into a sobbing mess every night for someone who doesn't care for you!!!!!! LISTEN TO ME!!!!
You're young, but you're never going to get this time back that you're wasting on this guy. There are going to be a MILLION other loves, and while you may think now they don't compare, they do, and they're better and more real and more fantastic than anything you've thought of while you're crying on your bed.
BE STRONG and move on. Good luck, and please don't throw anything at me - I'm saying it out of love. XOXO
2007-08-07 11:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by gochefs (Geo) 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do you ever question WHY you like him? What about him makes you tick? How does he return this love? If you have to, write a list of about a hundred things you love about him, and write what things you think he might love about you.
Not to be mean, but it sounds more like you're in love just for the sake of being in love. As soon as you find the core of why, you might discover a lot more about yourself.
2007-08-07 11:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by Joey T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds like the answer is the one you don't want to hear: You'll have to put him behind you if you can't be with him.
Or, you and he will have to just wait until you can be together and suffer in the meantime.
It hurts, sweety - I know. Sorry there are no neat answers.
2007-08-07 11:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Clint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with most of these people. definately write a letter. but be careful. u dont wana sound like an obsessive compulsive person who is stalking him. just tell him ur honest feelings. once ur 18 u can take a plane out to see him.
2007-08-07 12:24:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋