ok so if you acused your husband of having an affair with the old lady that he is taking to and from work just because she lives about four streets over. he is in training and has three more days left which means 3more days of taking her to and from work. my husband is 30 and he told me that she is 57. i dont like him taking her to work and still have doubts. i dont like it because he never told me he was until i actually followed him one morning after i found her name address on the fridge. he told me he is not, laughed it off saying she is an old granny & he is just doing her a favour. we have been agruing for a week and a half about this. do you think if he was having an affair with her would he say that i could meet her? because he did. do you think that us fighting if he was having an affair with her would be the perfect opportunity to leave for awhile & then that way us fighting is an excuse to leave. we are always togther apart from him working. what do you think?
2007-08-07 03:52:52 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's what I think...trust him until he gives you a reason not to. Giving someone a ride means absolutely nothing, and evidently he feels the same. Relax, be proud that he's coming home to you every evening. And good luck...
2007-08-07 03:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by Coach E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound like you are very insecure. yes he could be having an affair with her but more likely not. Maybe he didn't tell yo because eithr A/ it is no big deal or B/ he knew how you would react.
It is unhealthy to spend all time together just the 2 of you.
You need to get out there and make friends, the both of you then you will have more to talk about when together.
Lots of women andmen for that matter are insecure and they don't realise that sometimes they are the ones killing a relationship by making the other person feel boxed in.
You need to talk to your hub and get ur insecurities out into the open.
Good luck
2007-08-07 03:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, 57 is NOT AN OLD LADY!!!!!! Thank you. And by the time someone is 57 they have enough sense in their head not to fool around with a 30 year old married man. Stop being so insecure. If you are both always together what are you worried about? Is she training him - if so he is probably just being nice. When you followed him - did he go inside her home or did he just wait for her outside. I really do not think you have a problem but if you keep on him about it - it may turn into a problem. Meet her if you have to - if he was sleeping with her , I am sure he wouldn't ask you to meet her! I am sure he likes the fact that you are jealous but don't play into it for real.
2007-08-07 04:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not sure what to think. Isn't it possible that this lady really just needs a ride to work? It could be very possible that he was put into a situation of being asked to take her and exactly what was he supposed to say, No? You found her name and address on the refridgerator, out in the open. He may not have wanted to come right out and tell you he was doing this because he knew what your reaction was going to be. Like I said, I don't know, you would know him better than anyone. Has he ever cheated before and this is why your so insecure? Has ever acted as if he is into older women?
2007-08-07 04:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth?
You need to take a chill pill and not be so suspicious. it doesn't sound like he's done anything to even give you a clue that he is cheating. People do need ride to work, and you are close to her. At least he's being a gentlman and helping someone out male or female. The number on the fridge: He give the lady a ride to work, he should be able to contact her some how in case he's running late etc.
he DID ask you to meet her. Good. Go meet her.
2007-08-07 04:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sean C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is making you so insecure? Is your self esteem really that low?
It sounds like the 2 of you should get some counseling because it's silly of him not to have mentioned to you that he was giving someone a ride to work and it's absolutely ridiculous of you to follow him in the morning based on a name and address ON THE FRIDGE. not hidden in a pants pocket but totally out in the open. Don't you think if he was having an affair, he'd be a bit more discreet?
2007-08-07 04:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are impossible to live with and this is why men do hide things from their wife. Even if it is a simple ride to work for an older lady that needs a ride. If you act this way when it is an innocent situation, and you don't believe him why would he Even bother to try to talk to you about things that a normal husband and wife can actually communicate about. Women wonder why their man has an affair. Its because of being falsely accused every day of their life. I would not live in that poison. Are you insecure and its his fault?
2007-08-07 04:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let that seed of mistrust grow in your mind it will take over. I think its already too late for you. It has taken over. The guy had her number and address right on the fridge! There is nothing wrong with giving a co-worker a ride to work. Take a deep breath, sit back, and think about it! Do you really think he's cheating on you? Or did you just let the seed of mistrust grow out of control?
2007-08-07 04:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by J S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly have a query for you . Are the folk which you're bearing on honestly asserting on your face which you're mendacity or is this an assumption ? have you ever exaggerated in telling any thoughts and that they've found out? Do you have self assurance little white lies do not remember? it is my very own very own perception device . have self assurance in your self and the suggestions you're making. self-worth and self-worth sound like some factors that want engaged on. we are all persons and the government is made from persons in simple terms such as you and me . all of us have strengths and weaknesses some extra so than others. Scripture states that suited love casts out all worry. in case you adore your self why might absolutely everyone worry or be afraid of you and visa versa
2016-10-09 09:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the foundations of your relationship are crumbling. It does not matter if he is having an affair or not, the very fact that you do not trust him should be more of a concern.
He can not prove that he is not having an affair, you can only prove that he is, and if you decide to walk this route then it will spell trouble.
You both need to get into some counselling together to work this out. You may need counselling yourself to work out why you do not trust you husband.
Save your marriage or free yourself from it.
2007-08-07 03:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋