serious question on divorce and religion, good religious answers only please.?

Question

my wife wants a divorce but she hasnt been with another man. she doesnt want another man either.... in the Bible it says that if any man or woman puts away(divorces) their spouse then sleeps with another it is adultry and that is like the only way for a person to be able to remarry without sinning by committing adultry because their spouse already has. If my wife doesn't sleep with someone else yet doesn't want any thing to do with me, would it be religiously sound to remarry after the divorce? Marriage is once and forever according to the Bible.... so as long as she doesnt sleep with someone else after the divorce should i still try to pursue her? answers please.

Answer 1

I think you really need to talk to a pastor or priest depending on what religion you are. If she divorces you that is her choice. I would think that if there is no hope of reconciling then I would consider what the bible says about if the unbeliever wants to leave let them leave you are not bound in such circumstances. Even if she claims to be a believer she is acting like an unbeliever if she leaves and doesn't try to fix it. Then when the issue of widows is discussed the bible says that young widows should remarry so that they won't give in to desires. I take these 2 things to mean that if my husband were to leave me, it is not my fault and there's nothing I can do about it. (except for infidelity that would be my fault) If I am alone and desire to be in a relationship again then I should remarry rather than give into any desires I may have. You shouldn't try to pursue her unless she is saying she still wants to try. You can't force people to want to work it out. I also don't think you should rush out and find someone else. If I were you I would go through counseling with a christian counselor or a pastor. They can help you work through your feelings and give you some help interpreting the verses you are talking about. You should strive to make the most godly choices possible in your circumstances but remember that God loves you (and her) so instead of trying for perfection just focus on your relationship with him. Pray and ask for forgiveness for both of you and let God show you the path he has for you......

Answer 2

Well, it depends on your specific denomination or faith for the "official" answer.

You're right, the bible does clearly say that marriage is for life. A couple of examples: Matthew 19:6 says, "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."

And, in 1 Cor 7:10 "But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband". It looks like Paul knows this is not going to be very popular, as he clearly points out that it is God's command.

However, some denominations (such as Catholicism) leave room for "annulments". An annulment does not say that the marriage is hereby over, but that the marriage was actually never real in the first place. It could be for one of a variety of reasons, but the point is, if the marriage wasn't ever legitimate, it doesn't go against God's command to separate and remarry.

For instance, if at the time of the marriage one of the partners clearly did not view marriage as requiring lifelong fidelity, than the marriage might never have been real in the first place.

I would suggest talking with a priest or pastor, and fully and honestly explaining the situation. In any case, they will be able to offer you guidance and support.

Answer 3

That's a rather tough query on the grounds that i'm devout and i have notion about that query earlier than and i have not ever been equipped to come back to a conclusion in view that i have no idea. I can't assume loving any individual more that my household or boyfriend. I guess i really like each of those in distinct ways. And i don't suppose it's improper of me to love my loved ones equally to God, considering that is how i think. Some may just say that hence i would not be as practically God as i will have to, but i don't know, exciting concept.

Answer 4

What part of the Bible do you believe in? The whole concept behind Christianity is that Christ death on the cross "fulfilled" the old Levitical law and the rules of the Old Testament no longer apply. "Following the Law no longer brings righteousness and breaking the Law no longer brings condemnation." The 168 rules in the "Code of Righeousness" of Leviticus, and the thousands of other rules and traditions of both Scripture and the Pharisees no longer apply.

In the New Testament, Christ often taught about the harshness of the Law. Applied correctly and thoroughly, it was so burdensome as to be totally oppressive. When he spoke about marriage, his teaching was so harsh Peter stated that if what He said were true, it would be better not to be married at all. Christ replied that there were very few who could accept this teaching. Why would God create a rule of living; a lifestyle that applied to all, but few could accept?

But understand, this was before Christ died. His sacrifice had not yet applied. The ironclad harshness about marriage and divorce related to the ironclad harshness of the Law. It had nothing to do with the "Rule of Love" that His death would introduce.

Churches often misquote Scripture to fit their own designs. The rules of marriage and prohibition against divorce (except for infidelity) were applications of the Law carried to its extreme. They are not applications of the Love that was to follow.

Contrast the life of John the Baptist... austere poverty, eating locusts and honey, wearing an itchy loincloth, living in the desert; with Christ: eating and drinking to the point his enemies accused him of being a drunkard, going to parties, making miraculous wine, etc. This was meant to contrast the poverty of the Law compared to the rich enjoyment of Love. That's the whole point of the message when John baptised Christ, who's shoes he was unworthy to unlace. Compared to Love, the Law is totally inadequate.

You need to redefine what it means to be religious; to be Christian.

Answer 5

You do know that God did not write the bible. Right?
Men, people, groups of people wrote the bible and chose what writings went into it. The bible is a political religious tool used to keep a specific religious sect in charge. Instead of blindly following one view how about you educate yourself and read other religious material and try and see the universal ideas that bind them that go beyond the any single religion.

Ever thought that the restriction of divorce and marriage where put in place as a means of population control?

Answer 6

This is only MY opinion:
Marriage is blessed by God when we put Him first in it. If two people don't have God, then you're not equally yoked. This doesn't mean that the marriage wont work but if God is centered in the marriage at the beginning then divorce/adultery wouldn't be an issue.
I married my first husband but didn't love him and God was NOT the foundation of our relationship so it didn't last. But when I met my second husband and knew wholeheartedly that God placed him in my life, and we both put God in front of our marriage, we have the blessings of a great union.
I hope this helped you in some way...
God Bless

Answer 7

The Bible also says that a man is supposed to put his wife's needs before his own, to uplift her and encourage her and if need be to lay down his life for her. Were you doing or willing to do all of those things?

Seems to me that since you can not leagally stop her, trying to find some biblical excuse to stalk her is wrong on a moral and spiritual level.

Answer 8

I guess my question for you is, why do you want to pursue someone who doesn't want to be with you?
If you feel that strongly about marriage and divorce, you need to ask your wife to go to counseling with you because you have a religious opposition to divorce. You can't force her to go to counseling and if she won't go and actually files for divorce, there is no point in pursuing her. Your only option then religiously (per your stated beliefs) is to remain celibate for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

Why are you asking this on Yahoo answers instead of your spiritual adviser. Oh I'll bet you don't go to church because of all the hypocrites and phoneys. Religion by convenience is not religion. I think your soon to be ex wife is telling you she's done with your nonsense, enough so that she's not interested in anyone else.

Answer 10

The bible is written by man. Pray to God and see what he wants you to do.