Since been divorced, the girlfriend is supposedly dating someone else...of which Im completely over. I've moved on and I feel great that all the lying, cheating and bs is over. My stress level has dissapeared and I'm working on myself for once. I haven't emailed, her, called her, anything in over 2 months...and I've found someone else...Guess we all get what we deserve. I found someone that is light years ahead of this waste of my time girlfriend that basically screwed up my marriage. She's beautiful, smart, fun, etc...etc. I haven't been happier in years. So there is hope, for us so called "Men who leave their wives for their girlfriends" and are kicked to the curb by the girlfriend. Funny thing is, I have no ill will towards the ex-girlfriend, if it wasn't for her, I would have never left my pathetic marriage and I would have never been able to meet my new girlfriend...I just want to say THANK YOU, to my ex-mistress!
2007-08-07 03:42:03 · 36 answers · asked by ilosthernyc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the responses, good and bad. I was burnt and I screwed up. I learned never to put myself in that sort of situation ever again. Sometimes you learn the hard way. Its was one heck of an experience and I wouldn't change a thing...can't begin to explain all that I have learned about myself and others. If you don't love the person you are with...don't be with them. They don't deserve it. Don't lead another on either...saying one thing, doing another. You also can't force someone to love you back, its up to them. You have no control over their feelings, just your own. If you ever do get dumped, for god sakes, save face...they don't want you...don't make a fool of yourself. Take care of yourself, it all works out in the long run. Finally, don't cheat b/c it comes back to get you...everytime. Thanks again.
2007-08-08 06:44:12 · update #1
You had better hope she reads this - or otherwise it is a waste of time.
2007-08-07 03:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes we stay in a relationship because we are just not strong enough to leave, can't bear hurting that person so much, but then someone comes along (like ur x mistress) who shows us that we HAVE to move on and they can help us move on and support us, as it hurts for us hurting those we still love and care about just not in love with them. Then when that relationship ends (as most relationships do that start this way) then we are free and ready to move on and start living our life again and only then does true love happen.
Been there mate, know how it feels (although mine was slightly different in the fact that my partner at the time just wouldnt accept it was over and I couldnt leave her all alone as was too worried for her and now we are the best of friends)good luck to you
2007-08-07 03:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sure, until the next time you decide to lie and cheat on someone you committed to and then blame everyone else but yourself. While you are working on yourself, do spend some time with your character flaws and maybe you might actually be able to convince this one to stay with you. But frankly once a liar and a cheat, always a liar and a cheat. Grow up, be a man, and take some personal responsibility.
2007-08-07 03:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
Good to hear that you are pulling yourself together. But don't blame your ex-girlfriend for screwing up your life and your marriage. You screwed up your life and your marriage. Now that you are starting over, try not to make the same mistakes you made before. Be faithful to your new soulmate and quit flirting with every chick you meet and work with. Also, cool it with your blackberry and focus on your job. Good luck.
By the way, your ex-girlfriend is trying to pull her life together too and she seems to be doing fine.
2007-08-07 03:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Abdul Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations
2007-08-07 04:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by *~HOOTERZ~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend screwed up your marriage??? I have news for you, YOU screwed up your marriage!! Your girlfriend did your wife the favor by taking you off her hands. I feel sorry for the poor girl you're with now. Does she know what a loser she's getting? She should get rid of you now before your "forced" to go to another woman just to get rid of her.
2007-08-07 03:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by barbie b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm happy that you have found your happiness at the end of your dark tunnel but, remember everything always unveils itself...You don't want to be the one left out in the long run...Don't do to someone what you don't want done to YOU***
2007-08-07 09:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, good for you. Living a lie, for any reason, is not worth it in the end, and being in a marriage, where both parties are miserable is not the intent of this union. I hope you are truly in a healthy place in your life, and all your exes, (wife, mistress), are also happy with where they are and with whom they chose to be.
2007-08-07 03:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations, I hope your ex-wife looks at you in the same way LOL!
However, seriously, ensure that you have learnt by the mistakes you made before instead of continuously living them over and over again.
I wish you love and happiness for the future.
2007-08-07 03:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's good. Except one thing, karma will probably come back and bite you in the *** once again. How long do you think it will be until the newly beloved finds her a man on the side?
2007-08-07 03:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
So you were blameless when you cheated with this woman and your marriage ended?! I am so glad that she dumped you. And your ex-wife is soooo much better off with a lying, cheating husband like you.
2007-08-07 03:49:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋