why are you telling me to give my child up for adoption?

Question

Where did i state that i wanted to give my baby up for adoption or asked if you thought i should?my question was mearly to ask how i can get through being ill for one reason or another for the last 4 months not that i dont want my baby. I made the decision to keep my baby because i already loved the little life in side of me from the moment i found out i was pregnant and my love has grown more and more every day.Where did you get the idea that i didnt want my baby? My partner left me for his own reasons and i have moved on, its me and my baby now and no one will take that bond away from me.
Where the hell in any of my story did you think that i would not want to keep my little one?what is wrong with you people?
Thank you to the other people who have answered,for the people that asked i am 23 years old.

my previous question was titled "Please read this i need some advise AGAIN but im feeling so low.?"
Two at least one - two people told me to give my child up for adoption once he or she was born. If i am wrong and i gave off the wrong impression then i am sorry but i didnt think i did and it has made me angry.

Answer 1

I saw that and thought how rude...in your original story why would you have made the choice to have the baby, lose your boyfriend only then to give up your child for adoption - sometimes I dont think people read the questions properly or they are just spiteful.

In your first question you seemed really depressed but this one shows you have spirit and that it hasnt beaten you - I hope that your pregnancy gets easier and you get the chance to enjoy it

Answer 2

I havent read your last question but most people on here seem to come from America and from what i can tell american adoption must be sky high as that seems to be the judgement to anyone not feeling like the best mom in the world material....
Well im from Uk and having children i dont think it matters where u are in the world i suspect most the ppl telling you to adopt out are childless themselves, only a mother knows the bond between mother and baby, i know i couldnt give a baby of mine away for the world, single mom, suffering illness, lack of finances,,,, a love for your child outweighs all of them reasons and some people are so shallow they think you need the shallow tw** of a man that leaves the new expectant mom to be, or you need to have loadsa money to provide when all your child needs is love. No child no matter what the parents financial backgrounds goes without the basics in life,,, as for toys,,, my daughter has everything and plays with nothing,, the next door neighbour has hardly any toys and yet you always see him out playing with what he has got, using his imagination to make those small things go all the further,, like a childhood should be,,, full of imagination!!!
Keep your baby and dont listen to shallow minded folk on here that in reality if faced with some of the situations they advise people to give up your children with would almost certainally not consider it if it were theirs.
good luck

Answer 3

Hi!
I read your other question but unfotunately could not shed any light onto the problem, but i must say i was so shocked when i saw people saying give your baby up for adoption! These people have no right to make comments like this and the decision you made to keep your baby and lose your boyfriend was very brave and honourable, dont worry about what anyone else has to say. The one problem with posting questions on here for help is that theres always one who has to give an unwanted or unreasonable opinion.
Good luck

Answer 4

There are some people out there who seem to think adoption is this great option for women who aren't 100% happy about being a mum.
Typically the question goes 'should I have an abortion' and half the people who respond say 'adopt it out'.
Just ignore them. You obviously love your baby very much but you are having a hard time.
It WILL get easier. Your baby will start to become less hard to settle soon and less demanding. Hang in there.

Answer 5

Hello.. I don't know why or what prompted people to say you should have your baby adopted.

From this post you seem very upset and down.. and also very strong inside. You know that you love your baby and want him or her . I really want you to think about going to see your doctor about the low feelings you are having. It is not easy being pregnant alone. However, you will cope no matter how low you feel right now. Just think, when that little bundle of joy makes his way into the world, you will have forgotten all the low feelings and your ex partner, who has deserted you.

Answer 6

I didn't see your previous question so I don't know what caused this 'follow-up' but I have to say people are just people and sometimes we say some really silly things. You have to learn to roll with it. That is one thing my daughters/children have taught me and I think it's help with my association with the adults in my life.
Pick your battles. This is not one that you need to fight because (in my humble opinion) you can't make people understand what they don't want to understand. I do it too sometimes and I don't' mean to.
I hope we all know that you are trying to find your way and in this I agree - it is so wonderful to see someone your age taking responsibility for a life and so happily. Don't let the rest of us hurt that resolve.
Life will be challenging enough for you without you allowing what is written in this forum to upset you. So although reading the 'answers' here is fun sometimes, don't let it upset you.
And take some time for yourself in all this - your baby will be better for it. I wish someone could have got me to see that when I was just getting started but they couldn't. So I'm passing it on to you with the hope that you will believe a complete stranger (even though I didn't listen to my family/friends when they tried to tell me.

You go girl!!!

Answer 7

I know exactly what you mean. From some of the posts I see I wonder if it is because we are all sharing a language which is very far from 1st language status for a lot of people or Answers attracts a large pool of answerer's with brains the size of peas. ( Have to include myself in that on occasion!)
Don't let it get to you. Most of the people who give derogatory, tactless or just plain stupid answers won't even remember your question 10 minutes later.
I hope that you and your baby have a wonderful journey through life together, stronger for all the adversity before he or she is born.

Answer 8

Congrats hun!! I didn't see your question on being ill, but I can relate! The things I found to work are the acupressure wristbands and peppermint lifesavors. I can't sit in bed and eat first thing in the morning..makes me sick, so I get up and sit on the couch until my stomach feels a little empty, then I eat a blueberry breakfast bar, or muffin. Sorry your guy left, probably better in the long run anyway! Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Firstly, we are not doctors and cannot help with your problems so please go to your doctor and tell him everything you've just told us in your previous question.

Secondly, talk to your boss and tell them how you're feeling. It needs to be done. Maybe he'll find a solution where you only work 3 days a week or something to help with your energy, health and stress issues.

Thirdly, I didn't see that many people saying you should give your child up for adoption, in fact I only skimmed through but I didn't see any. Don't worry about what anyone else says, you're about to become a mother and you don't need people who are out to put you down.

Good luck!

Answer 10

I didnt see that question of yours but Im sorry that people got the wrong impression.

When I was pregnant I was sick the whole way through throwing up anywhere between 10-50 times per day every day the whole way through I can only sympathise with you on this - advise you to go to hospital if you get too sick so they can rehydrate you and to keep loving that precious little one inside you.

Hugs