Why is it that men (single or married) cannot say NO when a sexual opportunity presents itself?

Question

are women different?

Answer 1

I think its because in all societies and cultures, even in the animal kingdom, the male is expected to pursue, seduce and convince the female into having sexual intercourse, while the female generally plays a passive role and is generally spoilt for choice coz females are constantly being bombarded with offers (Chris Rock observes that, when a girl hits puberty and starts showing signs of womanhood, every kind gesture she ever receives from a man is motivated by the man's hope that things will culminate in sex).


This means that as far as sex is concerned, men are always operating from a position of scarcity, while for women, supply often outstrips demand. That way, a man always feels the need to be on the lookout for opportunities to seize...that's why, as another comedian observed, when a man mentions the number of times he's been laid, he's probably exaggerating by doubling the number, while when a woman mentions how many men she's slept with, she's probably lying and is halving the number.


Well, guess i made too many generalizations, but, when you think about it, the essence of what i'm saying its true. That's also why there are lots of female prostitutes wherever you go in the world, but a man trying to sell sexual services to women? You hardly hear of that.

Answer 2

I'd say it's human nature but you really are generalising. I'd say its fairly possible for a man or woman to say no when a sexual opportunity presents itself.

Think about it this way, to answer your second qusetion, assuming a straight man finds himself in a 'sexual opportunity', whether he is single of married, there has to be 'another party' involved, who in this case is a woman. She would also be not saying no to this sexual opportunity. From this perspective, men are as a bad as women and vice versa.

As for the reasons, there'll be some physcological reason no doubt, but I guess if a married man is doing the dirty then there is some complications with his marriage that he is seeking some restbite from (similarily with women) and that things need worked out.

Important thing to remember here is that it takes two to tango.

Answer 3

Women are different. You hit your sexual peak in your mid-30s while men do in their teens. This means men are excessively trying to find sexual opportunities from the time they are in high school. Women, not being in their prime as men, are more reluctant to engage in sexual activity and quickly and often as men, during that younger age. This causes men to chase women for many years and the female response makes sexual opportunity rare.

Women, in their mid-30s (married or not), tend to begin having the same difficulty in saying no to sexual opportunities. Men are conditioned this way because they have been chasing opportunity all their life so many of them take it when it presents itself to them.

As a society, we discourage sex among teenagers - for many reasons. One of the side effects is this conditioning of men that teaches them to seize opportunity when it presents itself.

Answer 4

We can and do, but not all of us. There is a section of society that seems not to pass up any invitation relating to sex, but there's an equal number of women in that section.

It annoys me to hear the "sexual imperitive" used as an excuse for infidelity... I have heard the phrase " a Standing c**k has no concience".... and it's bullcrap.

Strikes me it's men (and women) who are not happy or satisfied with thier lives ir maybe in ther relationships are the ones who behave this way.

Thats my opinion folks.

Answer 5

I think you are generalising quite a bit. I am a gay man and not too bad looking, but I don't take every opportunity to jump into bed with people just because it is handed out on a plate. I have more self control and pride than that. We are not all sex addicts who can't keep our bits in our trousers.

Answer 6

Well quite frankly men CAN say no. They can choose whether or not to act on their sexual impulses, just as women can.

Men might say they can't help it, but you watch how quick they can stop when they have to ... All that 'I can't help it' stuff is just an excuse for behaving however they want to and worry about the consequences later.

Cheers :-)

Answer 7

Men are just wired that way. Males of most species are that way. Nature wants the male to spread the DNA far and wide, it keeps the gene pool healthy to be varied, avoiding inbreeding. Its biological. Females have to go slower because pregnancy often results, they have to have their thought processes involved a bit more.

Answer 8

Singles probably cant, but most married man do MOST not all....but you never know...shifty shifty...I used to work at this shop ones owned by a husband and wife...and I swear the man used to check me out....I got a tattoo on my lower back at the Easter Show...its like one of those that stay for two weeks...and I went to work and i bent down to get something and then he goes "Oh wow did u get a tattoo" ...Im just like finking..y are u even looking there old man!...and then i also heard that hes been calling a friend of a friend who also works there, and his been tellng her that shes hot and **** like that...man some sick **** happends....but I think its really up to the person when they are faced in such a situation! Its not like woman dont want sex! :P

Answer 9

That is rubbish!. Plenty of men are faithful. Everyone is different. Some men are unfaithful but then so are some women. Some NOT all!!

Answer 10

Wow, a generalisation, how rare?!
Let me tell you something. I am a man, neither single nor married, but in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend and whilst I can only speak for myself, I have turned down many offers for sex since being with him. He is satisfaction enough for me, and I can't ever imagine being with someone else. As for him, well, why go out for a cheeseburger when you have fillet steak at home eh? I rest my case.