I am going to the doctor in 20 mintues to find out how many I am having and what I can do. If I have twins I think I could handel it, but if I have triplets I don't know what I would do. I am only 15 so I never really planned to become pregnant, but since I did I have to choose. Which should I do treminate these children, raise them myself with my ex boyfriend, or put them up for adoption? My only question if I have more then one, would it be possiable to have all of them go to one family? I am just lost right now, what should I do?
2007-08-07 02:18:50 · 9 answers · asked by Baylee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
dont terminate
you will regret it when you are older, if you dont want them put them up for adoption. you would have a c section with triplets
triplets are very rare, you probably are only having one.
the doc will advise you.
2007-08-07 02:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you're already so far along that you'll know if you're having multiples, an abortion would be very difficult. I'm personally against abortion, but just as a practical issue, that's probably not an option for you anymore. If you do end up going with adoption, many families will take sibling groups. But you should go through things with a counselor before making that decision, because parting with a baby is extremely hard. Open adoption might be a good choice for you. In any case wait until after the appointment, it could be that you're getting anxious over nothing.
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2007-08-07 09:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aaske dfor our opinion and I think you are one the right track as far as adopting the babies out. Raising them with an ex boyfriend really means raising babies on your own and although I know thousands of women do that, it's a very very difficult lifestyle especiallly at 15. You could contact one of your local churches and see if there are any couples there looking to adopt a child or possibly children. Especially in the case of adoption, they really do try to find one home for all the children
2007-08-07 09:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chasn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to have an abortion, that is entirely YOUR CHOICE. However, as has already been stated, it is something that is emotionally wrenching so think carefully before making a decision.
Were I in your position, I would not keep the children, because your whole life in going to change, and not for the better. And not just your life, but your parents' lives, your childrens' lives, and also your ex-boyfriend's life. Think about that too. If you decide to put them up for adoption, see if you can meet the potential parents if that will ease your worries.
What you're going through right now is a stressful, scary situation, and the decisions you make now are going to affect the rest of your life, so think carefully, and good luck.
2007-08-07 09:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by claudiasuperspy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless you were on some sort of fertility treatment it would be HIGHLY unlikely that you have more than one, and MUCH more unlikely that you'd have more than two.
You made those babies. You made the adult decision(as a child) to partake in adult activities(sex) and made life. Abortion might be the simple solution but its not right to kill innocent life because you didnt want to commit to it.
Adoption is ALWAYS an option. There are plenty of people looking tio adopt.
My good friend was 15 when she first got pregnant. She since has had one more, is 24 getting a bachelors in physcology, and soon will marry a wonderful man who has stood by her side and raised those kids like they were his own.
It might not be the path you wanted for your life, but if you set your mind to it good things will happen for you and your child(ren).
Copping out on them and killing them just isnt the answer. You wouldnt want to live with that over your head all your life. Besides, what if you got married and wanted to have kids some day later, you'll always have it int he back of your mind that you killed your other children.
My cousin had an abortion 20 years ago, it still haunts her.
2007-08-07 09:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Before getting upset wait to see what the doc will say.If the news aren't what you're expecting you should think very carefully before taking any decision.If I was you I would keep the babies no matter the number and try to raise them properly.Talk to your ex...find out what he thinks of the situation.
Good luck :)
2007-08-07 09:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is an option called open adoption.. you can meet, interview, and select the family that your child goes to. These are married couples that can't get pregnant, that want a baby really bad. They pay your medical expenses.. and update you as the child grows. Please consider this option!!! why do you think that you are having more than one baby?
2007-08-07 09:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would keep them and raise them b/c they usllay dont go to the same family and they might just be one! so wait and see but please if u cant do it just adoption dont kill them but if need someone to talk to u can email adidas_babyblue88@yahoo.com i m 19 and have 2 and i am very happy i have a 2yrs old and a 5month andwe are a happy family i am so glad i had them the are the world to me
2007-08-07 09:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by adidas_babyblue88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
twins maybe but triplets are very very uncommon these days unless you use fertility drugs. i am not saying that its not possible i am just saying very unlikely. just raise the child my ex's mom had my ex at 15 and she was fine. she had support from her family.but i am going to say though you are only having one. good luck.
2007-08-07 09:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by liljess69692004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋