It's been a major discussion among friends regarding sex before marriage. Some of them are of the view that with the current trend of sex being one of the major cause of marriage break ups, the two parties (male and female) show have sex as a way of knowing each other first before marriage. This will help them to deal with any reservations or work on problems that might crop up because of sex. The others are also saying no way there shouldn't be any sex before marriage, whatever the problem will be what you were destined to get so be satisfied with each other. What do you also think? Shouldn't him/her be tested before marriage?
2007-08-06 23:31:57 · 11 answers · asked by Raymond D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i don't think sex is the problem with bad marriages.
it can be an indication of deeper problems.
anyways...
people getting married oughtta be sexually compatible.
it can be discussed.
but a test drive will tell you more.
watch out cause if you can drive the car for free, you might not make the commitment to buy it.
2007-08-06 23:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by wanabbetter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many facets of marriage other than sex.
All facets have a bearing on the others.
If there is bad communication,
Loss of job,
Moving in different directions,
Being interested in other people,
Both not wanting the same things,
Differences in bringing up children,
Different backgrounds,
Financial problems or differences,
Not being open,
Not being able to give to the other what they need,
Agreeing all the time just to keep the peace,
Disloyalty.
Etc etc etc......
A myriad of involvement which helps create a good or bad relationship/marriage.
To single out sex by itself is, I think an error.
Everything relates to everything else.
Whether or not one has sex before marriage, or after marriage is not really a great indicator whether or not the marriage is going to be "good" or "bad"
Sex to many people is just scratching the itch, lets be real about it.
I advocate arranged marriages by the village.
The village get together and look at your background, your strengths and weaknessess, the other persons, background, strengths and weaknessess, and after much deliberation with the wise ones, the parents, and all involved, recommend a suitable marriage partner.
The two come together, have the support of the whole tribe, the union is respected as that, and the marriage begins.
Children are brought into the marriage and everyone cares and looks out for each other.
Infidelity or nonseemly behaviour is "nipped in the bud".
The couple are counselled, supported and helped through all aspects of the marriage.
It is not about sexual attraction, or being "hot", or a "babe", it is a real science to bring these two people together.
Now that is hot.
2007-08-06 23:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by Astro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is not the answer. I believe that the first year of marriage is the honey moon effect, anything and everything is ok, after that, then both parties start to be themselves. That is where the problems start. I think that people should have to date, and the things that come with dating for two years before getting married. At least one of the years living together. This way the honeymoon effect will have worn offf.
2007-08-10 18:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by Doug favors universal insurance! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait till marraige. I did not and I regret it, however I am not married yet. My logic is that if you marry someone before having sex with them, you get to know them on so many levels besides sex and get to know them as a person. If you are willing to make a LIFETIME committment to someone, which marraige is, than any sexual problems that arise during marraige should be able to be discussed and worked out in a open relationship. Having sex before marraige could be bad. Say you have one bad sexual episode and they get separated and miss out on the love of there life because of a stupid problem that could have been worked out. Plus sex can take over a relationship and you don't get to know the person as well... Eventually we all get too old to have sex and all thats left is the emotional connection.
2007-08-06 23:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think people need to do what feels right to them, so for some test-humping, for others no test-humping. More to the point I think people need to get to know each other better before marriage and not with b.s. blinders on or delusional expectations of each other. People need to open thier eyes, its really not that hard to see others for how they really are over a longer time frame, and frankely people who get married in under a year from first contact are just begging to add to the divorce rate.
2007-08-06 23:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ppl now like to have sex before marriage !!
but honestly it's a disaster !!
becoz when u have sex wth a lady and then u get married u'll keep comparing ur wife wth the others u had sex wth !!
and that's a big disaster !!
and it's better to have these new feelings of sex wth ur beloved wife...
2007-08-06 23:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by ]]--((Iam-HeRe))--[[ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a small part of marriage.
2007-08-06 23:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Caninelegion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not, you consider people as cars!!!
there are so many things other than sex that count for any successful marriage
2007-08-06 23:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sex before marriage is essential... once you get married and you aren't sexually compatible, what then???
2007-08-06 23:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my harsh answer is no!no!no! thats not proper way to test if your relationship can last long
2007-08-06 23:35:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋