i was abused badly by someone i looked up to and they never payed for what they did yet. I wake up from nightmares and i feel an overwhelming anger inside for payback. I go in the basement and bring large knives and hammers and smash things pretending its their head. I have fantasies of killing them and since this issue has been ignored i feel like i want to take it into my own hands for payback, what do i do?
2007-08-06 22:37:44 · 5 answers · asked by glfd 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
do you have a really close friend that knows just about everything about you? someone that you can confide these feelings in? i think that i understand what you are feeling. i have been there myself. you hate this person for hurting you obviously, and that hate is what makes you react, but you are the one that carries the hate. you are the one that loses time of life and happiness waiting for this person to "get theirs". i am not the most religious person, but i do believe in God. i can promise you this, NO ONE is a greater equalizer than God. i have a personal relationship that maybe some people dont understand, but between God and carma, i think it is safe to say, that you can go on and live your life, that person will not skate free. they never do. you may not actually see what happens but usually it is in what is taken from them. it isnt doing you any good to hang on to the experience. i spent 20 years doing that. time doesnt change anything. but time is opportunity for you to reason it out with yourself. its a choice to be happy. dont give that creep the satisfaction of allowing what they have done to make you miserable.chances are, that is exactly what would make them happy is to see you suffer. if you show hate, they will be glad. i figure that who ever did this to you, is more miserable than you are. they dont like themself. you wont either if you dont find some way to be living with positives. then....they win. they have succeeded. dont let them have your life .
2007-08-06 23:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by kimpossibly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
crazycatlady had a great idea! However, I think you would be busting up a few hundred pinatas before you felt better. It doesn't quench your need to see them punished.
People are going to tell you to get counseling, if you haven't already.
Taking the punishment into your own hands is not the best thing to do, I think you know that. The punishment and misery you will again suffer because of what you do, is just not worth that. They stole a part of you don't let them steal another.
From my own experience I can tell you that what goes around comes around. Maybe not in the timing you choose, but it always does. One day you will sit back and be in your glory as this person will get what is due.
Some people who have been abused turn their experience around in a positive way. They end up counseling those who have been abused. Trust that God has a plan for them and a plan for you. His plan for you will be a good one and theirs will be that of punishment. The test is to whether you are a survivor, if you come out stronger and persevere.
2007-08-06 22:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by hlp4U1799 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not know what the abuse is...and don't know your age so it is difficult to answer this question appropriately for you...i will say what you are doing is just feeding the anger and the hurt...and it is not healthy...you need to find a way to deal with this so you can move on because you are now stuck in the circle of this abuse and to be honest you are reabusing yourself...which is not fair...i truly believe you need to talk to someone about this...i don't know if that is a counselor, parent, friend, minister...but you need to talk to someone and let some of this anger go before it eats you alive...i'm sorry i can't be more help but it is so hard when you only have a small portion of the information...i do wish you some peace...
2007-08-06 22:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about it...maybe you can consult your question on a psychologist i know psycologist can answer you question...just one advice!....
FORGIVE AND FORGET...are you a girl or a boy?
2007-08-06 22:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a pinanta that looks like the person you hate and take your frustrations out on it
2007-08-06 22:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋