Trust in my group of "friends"?

Question

I apologize for the unorganized mess I'm about to type
Its a long story, People left, people came, people hated, people growed. After 5 years in the same group of friends, I moved and left. I occasionally hang out with them, since its not too far. This is my problem. After all these years, we enjoy the company, but thats it.
What I mean is that if any of us left the group, we would not miss them for more than a day. I really want a reason, and I can't really pinpoint the problem:We bust each others nuts, I've been made fun of, others have too.

I don't understand why. What sparks in others.
Our group is one giant guy-fest FYI.
Is it because were too immature, or is it because we just haven't done anything to gain trust. I wouldn't have guessed the 2nd, because I have tried to gain that.

I guess were just too young to actually have this wonderful thing called friendship, and to move on from this stupid thing called company? Or should I believe real friendship doesn't exist for a teen

Or is it just my need for more than just company? Is that even normal? Ever since I've moved this friend thing has stopped. I guess if 5 years isn't enough for one group of friends, I guess I'll have to wait till everyone in the world grows up, including me. I'm not trying to sound mature, I guess I'm just pessimistic.

Answer 1

No your RIGHT!!! Yes sir buddy your feeling what that group of boyz of yours is lacky. Its fundemental, almost elmental, but truely extremely fin important, it wasn't trust. Your close but this creats trust. It isn't new company buddy, that would just propatuate your problem, this thing you bring with you. I've got my deepest relationship so far in my teens buddy. But it all comes down to a very singlar thing..... PURPOSE!!!! Thats right buddy, why were you friends? I bet the purpose was to kill an afternoon, not be by yourself, or something else small and not really all that intense. Really the only thing that saved my group is that we talk ALOT about how gosh darn IGNORANT we were and how ignorant the world was, and thru that we communicated truly about how we felt. We also didn't give each other cope outs. We had a friend who thought he was stupid and ungly, we slapped him and told him if he was those things, and it mattered he wouldn't be with us. If some one was acting out of charater we knew enough how to relate to them to get to the point, shoot we could guess it we were that close. Because we shared a singlar purpose "TO TRY AND HELP EACH OTHER MAKE IT THRU THE TEENAGE YEARS BETTER OFF THEN EVERYONE ELSE" Yea I know it wasn't exactly deep or ground brecking, but we could trust each other, no one touched another guys girl, nor even after the fact dated her, no one stole, nor did we talk behind each others back, that also got you slap'd for being a dick. But we didn't pull no bull on the fact that we knew no one in this world knew what the heck was going on, but we knew what the point of life was. To not just survive, but to thrive. But my group was an interest.... collection? Had a life long thug, two tri-althetes, a greaser, and a good collection of sisters. Yes females we would not have sex with because we cared that much for them. Of course taught me that, that was based on our insecurites and really we could of had some wonderful relationships with them, but no ones perfect. Having a group of people willing to drop there ego's and accept that, AND do what they can about it, now thats a decent purpose for any group.... but its that buddy, the purpose of the group that defines it in the end. We lived hard-2-the-core and we'd be damned if our friendships weren't. Funny they became wonderful soccer dads, its our sisters thou that disappoint me. Seems not being with someone because you don't see yourself as good enough, hurts both parties..... its a bitter/sweet trip buddy, just make sure you know were your going and that the people your with do to.... It isn't always that easy, nor was it always wonderful with us, but we tried, and thats really what mattered....