i took my ex to court i won and got a court order which i have stuck to, my ex broke it the other week and i have not seen my daughter since my ex said in open court i was a good dad and my daughter loved me, there as been loads of arguments and threats since the court order was put in place , i booked a holiday for me and my daughter her mum said yes but after i booked it said no, its cost me £1500 in solisitors bills in the last 4 months my ex is now getting an injuction out on me so i carnt go near her im pleased with that cos i only wont to see my daughter not her,i can only go back to court 1 more time then im broke iv no money left i feel im in a no win situation shes taking our arguments out on me daughter and hurting me and our daughter from stopping us from seeing each other, should i walk away as much as it hurts me i feel like my daughter shouldnt be treated like this she sees me then she dosnt its just confussing her shes only 3
2007-08-06 21:29:00 · 20 answers · asked by mark h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No don`t walk away... you deserve to be in your daughters life and your daughter deserves a father. I would suggest you go to speak to a solicitor... i`m sure some do a free first visit.. or go and speak to the citixens advice people ( thats if your in the UK) they are definately free. Your ex is the one who is breaking the court order so she might be the one who ends up paying the fees. Get some legal advice and don`t back down on this. Good luck and be strong x
2007-08-06 21:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
What i really want you to understand is that, life in itself is full of challenges and obstacles that can have either negative or positive effect on your total living at the end of the day.
My advice is this, whether your Ex allow you to have access to your daughter at this critical stage or not, just let this time go and after all tension has calmed down, inspite of the court order, God can turn the table around for your favour and your daughter will have absolute desire to see you. besides, your Ex can even change her attitude for the better and by so doing your marriage can be re-union for the better.
Therefore, do not do any thing funny, just allow your Ex and daughter some time to calm down and get in touch with those that a close to yr Ex so that they can reveal to you her reasons and to know how understanding can be sought among you.
2007-08-07 01:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is SO sad. To me it's like a death but you have to keep seeing this person and reminded of all the bad things that went on and for some it seems to never end until.....
you two sees what it is finally doing to all of you.especially the child.
If you two could just come together for the sake of the child, and communicate about its needs, it would be so wonderful.
iiwent through this and believe me,, you think the adults are hurting, it the child that suffers so, if the ex doesn't allow the child to visit, you might have to fight for your rights because if
u don't the child will ask one day why? Unless she has good reasons why she is reacting as she is,the judge will not allow this behavior. Idon't know your situation , every body's is different.but I THINK EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO SEE THIER CHILDRENIF THAT PERSON IS TRYING TO BE A GOOD PARENT.I HOPE U THE BEST.
2007-08-06 22:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by HEAVENLYTREASURE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Don't give up. Don't let your daughter down. If you won in court, and she kept your daughter from you....that's kidnapping, to a lesser extent. Take off the gloves, find a lawyer Pro Bono, and sue her for full custody, with supervised visitation, and the cost of the holiday. The courts usually favor the mother, but, since you already have one court ordered victory, it's time to teach her a lesson. Never stop loving your daughter.
2007-08-06 21:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by imrt70 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are always 2 sides to every story. Why is your ex getting an injunction out on you so you can't go near her?
Be honest with yourself. If you were truly a victim in the situation, why would your ex be getting an order against YOU? Logically, it would be the other way around.
You will need to sort your relationship out with the woman you once had a relationship with. Then, you can build a harmonious relationship with your daughter and your ex.
2007-08-07 01:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I had the same beef with my ex some months ago after she ended the relationship, don't give up but then again don't fight cos when you show a woman attention, she will go on doing it over and over again. Ignorance is the best weapon, show only interest in your daughter and keep all those paper work and records because one day you will need em to show you were interested in her life...I have dreamed of walking away but like any father, love for the kid comes first...good luck
2007-08-06 23:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by Cplex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep fighting for your rights. Keep your paperwork. Your daughter will at least know when she is older that you tried hard to make sure you could see her. You need to set up a specific visiting schedule. Do not try to take your daughter out of town for right now. The courts might view it as you possibly trying to abduct your child.
I would suggest that you stop doing whatever caused that injunction to be placed against you.
2007-08-06 21:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight all the way for your daughter, it's your ex who's causing the problems not you. Your daughter is only 3 if you leave now she won't remember all that when she comes looking for you when she's older and she may blame you.
Have you thought about legal aid? I'd contact citizens advice and see what they can offer you. Whatever you do, don't give up fighting for the right to see your own flesh and blood.
2007-08-06 21:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by star_light_star_bright_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!!! I'm afraid to say but your ex is a cow!!! She should not confuse your relationship with her with your with your daughter, which are completely different things!!!! Try write her a letter, saying to her not but only her feelings at first, she is being very selfish and she should think of your daughter first, everyone needs a dad, she is really wrong if she think not, and one day your daughter will ask her what happened!!!
God luck!
2007-08-06 21:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by ADDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there look this is something that you cant walk away from ,this is youre little girl and both parents have rights look i dont know what part of theworld you live in but there must be some kind of help that you can get with this in the uk it is .....social work department where they have a child section ,where you can get advise and they can help ,slow as the system is they do get there ........youre wife is to say the least not being fair on this little girl and is playing mind games which is causing her hurt and damage as she will not really understand what is going on youre wife should have a good look at her self as both of you should be pulling together for one reason alone and that is that little girl who happens to be both youre daughter ........get advise and dont give up there is this litt.le girl missing her dad ......good luck and i really hope things work out for you .......take care xx
2007-08-06 22:33:16 · answer #10 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋