However she knows that he would make trouble and keep persuing her. She also feels it is right that he has some contact with his one year old daughter. She is desperate to get out of this relationship and is VERY unhappy, any advise please? We live in the UK
2007-08-06 21:23:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Mum, sweetie!
Get your baby out of there! Then contact your local authority. Look, I know about abusive relationships. Your daughter knows he is a bastard, but she has already been brought down to a very low self-esteem. AND, she probably still feel the "good guy" is in there and doesn't want to deprive him the pure love between him and their daughter. BUT, an abusive man can and will use the shared parentage as a controlling aspect to the relationship. I, too, live in the U.S. I don't know your laws.
All I know is if this was my baby and grand-baby, I would stand in between. Your daughter might falter and want to go back. Be her strength. Keep showing her what real love is. He might threaten, but would you give your life to protect your family? Seek all legal ways to protect them, but most of all show him that your daughter is not standing alone!
Really, look at the worse..........unless you step in and take charge, you might be burying your little girl, your grand baby, or both!
2007-08-06 22:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by MOI 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As time has marched on...so have the laws against domestic violence. If she knows that he'll make trouble if she leaves...is THAT trouble worse than the situation she's currently in?
Tell her to obtain proof (a recorded threat on a cellular message, etc) then think of the child....
If he's THAT violent, he should NOT have any contact with her. Seeing mom passively accepting the violence makes the odds against her daughter that she'll be able to avoid a violent man, herself. Act now, before we have another statistic on our hands.
STOP DOMESTIC ABUSE!!!
2007-08-06 21:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by imrt70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you have that's close to a bondsman in the UK. In the US they are guys that collect very questionable debts from bad people & they sometime collect wanted fugitives.
Forget the courts. Get a couple of big guys that deal career criminals for a living. Stay away from gang members.
Just have a couple of BIG guys go and "talk" to him. If he gets tough with them, they can deal with it.
If he's a problem after that, have your guys put him in the hospital. That'll give him time to think.
2007-08-06 21:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter needs a masculine figure in her life. I think she has good morals, but sometimes you just need to forget about what is equal, and start thinking about what is JUST. Someone who is unable to make a decisive decision in his or her lifestyle is need of someone who can articulately define the situation. Leave or suffer it out. Let her know that she has the freedom to not be an equal opportunity mother. She can say no to an abusive husband.
2007-08-06 21:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sneebs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you may have asked approximately his relationship status once you found out he already had a baby. you do no longer look ahead to a guy to resign that suggestion. You seek for it out so those variety of issues do no longer happen. You did no longer ask for the reason which you probably did no longer rather care to understand. 2nd of all, it is not your place to tell his spouse. it rather is his interest. once you pass to courtroom and record for baby help his spouse will discover out then. it rather is all the telling you're able to do. finally, if he's so violent which you're worried approximately you and the secure practices of your baby, get a restraining order alongside with that youngster help.
2016-12-11 12:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by wingert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't how the law works in the uk but in the usa a women could take her child and get a restraining order that keeps him away from his wife and the wife can get full custody of the child if the court sees the dad as an unfit father. please call the police if he is violent. good luck to your daughter.
2007-08-06 21:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by B. Novak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you need to move to the USA and then tell her to come and see you on vacation and never to go back have your sister that he doesn't know really well act dead. So he doesn't have to come with her to the funeral. Then you can relocate again, and he won't know where you are. Or you could just have like 10 people beat him up just an opinion.
2007-08-06 21:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Shane W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her to go to a womans shelter, file a police report against hime and amke all his visits with his daughter supervised. If she is too afraid then you call the police and explain the situation. She'll end up dead if she stays with him.
2007-08-06 21:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Load her and the baby up and move to America. What the hey, everbody else has been for the last 500 years.
2007-08-06 21:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sloan R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say get authorities involved, especially if he is violent with her. Would you want your child around a violent man even if he was the father?
2007-08-06 21:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by Seung Hee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋