my friend had smex with her boy friend few days ago and she told me and she said she wasnt pregnent or anything she was scared to tell her mom and i told her to tell her mom do you think having her tell her mom is the right thing?
shes 13 and her boyfriend is 16......some people want to know that so i put it in there
this is the first time iv had to deal with somthing like this so i dont know how to handle it
2007-08-06 20:51:49 · 19 answers · asked by broken souls 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if she thinks shes old enough to have sex, she shouldnt be embarassed to talk about it. Sex is a mature thing, and her mother can help her get protection, and education about it. i dont think her mom will be very happy when she finds out, so your friend might get mad at you. If this happens, dont get mad back. Shes probably just scared or embarassed and is taking it out on you. let her know (gently) thats its not your fault, and like i said, if she thinks shes mature enough to have sex she should be able to talk about it. Also let her know that youre her friend, you care about her, and when shes done being mad, youll be there, but until then you dont deserve to be yelled at. you didnt do anything wrong. dont worry. youre a good friend.
2007-08-06 20:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by beautiful disaster <3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I think her telling her mom is a terrible idea.
But that's only because with the mother I had growing up, it would have been devastating.
It's difficult, but it's her decision.
I wouldn't tell to do, or not do anything, but only to listen, and to offer what you THINK she should do.
But I should also add that her having sex is also a terrible idea.
Tell her that if she is not prepared for the possible responsibilities she may have to take on (accidental pregnancy, std's, etc), then she should not have sex until she can handle these things like a mature adult.
Besides that... her boyfriend is sixteen... what does he want with a thirteen year old girl??? It may only be three years, but at this age, three years is a big deal.
2007-08-07 03:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie E. Bang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smex?
Anyway, yes, it's the right thing. Even if she doesn't think she's pregnant-and how would she know at 13?-she is now at risk for STDs and all kinds of things. Her mom will be able to make appropriate dr appts and make sure she knows how NOT to get pregnant at 13.
You made a mature decision. Very nice. *pats you on the back*
2007-08-07 03:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself unless you encouraged this, seems the mom could have been the more responsible, now maybe she will start. You can't let the weight of the situation fall on you. If you have good intentions and made an effort to help, that's nice. But it's not your responsibility and if others would do there part, you would not have been tempted to take part. You are a victim now too.
2007-08-07 04:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sportsdress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should tell her mom since she's way underage and might not fully understand what happened to her. But if her mom is strict and judgemental though, hmmmm. Maybe she can first talk to an older sister or cousin since they both know how the mom would react? but she should talk to someone in her family since something might come up in the future that she can't handle.
2007-08-07 03:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sweeney 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have done a good thing- a responsible act, but your friend has done a nonsense. I personally feel very bad to learn such things. Is it a highly talented and cultured generation that is going to rule the world ?.( parents think over it ). It seems to me that the young generation want to finish themselves very early.
2007-08-07 04:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by bigboss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while it is not a wrong thing, it is also not the right thing to do, i don't thing it is the right thing to do. teens are known to experiment, but should be done after seeking knowledge. she can see her school councilor to know more about sex education. at this age it would be wise to hold on for a few more years. if she understands this she may not tell the parents.
2007-08-07 04:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by The Monk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes 13 and hes 16...she should definately tell her mom. if he mom is anything like mine she will be sooo pissed. but she really should let her mom know especially since she is 13. my mom told me no sex until 29 so...yea lol
2007-08-07 03:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by ebs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell her mom, she's way to young to be having sex and is not emotionally, physically or financially prepared to deal with the responsibilities that come with sex.
2007-08-07 03:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey it ain't your fault you were lookin out for your friend , but just be a man and take guilt for it she will get over it , but thats only unless her mom gets mad if she doesnt even though she probably will and call up the 16 yr old's parents tif not everything is good , but just make sure your friend doesnt get depressed & do sumthing stupid if she gets in big ****. my friend killed himself over sumthing like that so look out for that stuff
2007-08-07 03:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by gamernsk8r 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋