Don`t marry the one you love. Marry the one that loves you.
2007-08-06 19:54:56 · 36 answers · asked by bigpumpdaddy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should always love the person you're going to marry, and they should always love you. That's just common sense to me.
2007-08-13 06:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure i have that philosphy, but I have been searching for love for many years. I have loved and been loved back long long ago so I do know what it is like and I have always gone by never give up and keep searching for the one you whole heartedly love that loves you back the same. NEVER SETTLE! However, over the years I have had horrible horrible relationships and been abused many times. So now I am beging to think that perhaps if I could only find someone who was good to me that LOVED ME I would be alright..... So I am very unsure at this point in my life as to which one is the best......I am still hopeing to find that real man, one who loves me as much as I love him!
2007-08-11 19:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by connie p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I have heard this in a conversation before. Marry the one that loves you and that is all for you. This was with a guy that had three gals he really wanted and could not deceide which one to take to the next level. He thought the world of all of them and realized that the one that was all for him and loved him was the one he wanted. They have been married for 30 years and she is still all for him. ( he on the other hand is a bit of a wanderer) He's happy and so is she so I suppose it is Marry the one that loves you. Chances are she will be there for you through everything.
2007-08-14 10:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one... Well, I haven't gotten married yet, and I won't anytime soon, but I can tell you that I don't have that philosophy, and I hope I never do... If someone gets married, they should do so with the person they love, and be sure they're loved back... otherwise, what's the point? It all comes down to one question: What is the point of marriage? Is it to have children, or to be with the person you love?
2007-08-06 20:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's crap unless u r a control freak. I can't imagine sleeping with someone--over and over--FOR YEARS--that I don't love. It's repulsive to me. I feel sorry for u if u marry in that circumstance but, I feel sorrier for the woman.
I hate to say it but, a male probably came up with it. LOL my husband even said 'it must have come from a guy--a very sad one, who is really insecure.'
What's a matter? You scared to love someone? It is taking a big chance after all. It's a chicken(^&$ thing to do to be loved and not love back. Or, maybe you have no capacity to love.
You should just stay single. Don't inflict yourself on a trusting woman.
2007-08-14 05:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by a_redhead1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married four times and never been "in love " now this one going down the tubes . I hope some day I will really fall in love . I will not settle next time . Only marry the one you love . I didn't years ago ,wish I had followed my heart .
2007-08-14 13:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by redhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have that philosophy. I married the one who I love and who loves me. It will never work if it doesn't go both ways. I've also heard that you should marry someone who is more in love with you than you are with them. I don't agree! I think it is each person's responsibility to fall more and more in love, not worry about who loves who more.
2007-08-14 13:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage i married the one i thought i loved. So didnt work, I still care for him, we are still friends and actually have wonderful conversations and spend time together with our two boys on holidays and birthdays with out arguement, but I know that my love was not enough.
Now, I am with a man who loved me first. It took me three years to say yes to his proposal, and he told me he loved me before I would even consider the words.
I dont think its marry who loves you, but marry who truely loves you and you love back. We have been together almost 8 years now and I wouldnt change a thing about any of it.
2007-08-06 20:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by mms4resprnts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are afraid of getting hurt hence the philosophy . It's a defence mechanism . They believe that if they dont give their heart , they wont get hurt .Been there ,done that ! Falling in love and marrying the one you love makes marriage more fun and certain situations more tolerable.
2007-08-14 14:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by meme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you could really love someone that didnt love you back, how could you get to the point of thinking you were in love with someone if they dont have the feelings for you.....
I think that you might not now what real love is till you both feel the same way for eachother.......some people think that they are in love, then break up down the road, get with someone else and then realize, hey now this is love.
2007-08-14 11:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha I love that quote. Many people have that philosophy and at first that's what I did. The one that loved me not the one I was too into. I mean I was into them, but now it's dead even. I may even be more in love than them on me now. I think it's a trust issue. You know you love them but you dont' give them your all till later on in the relationship when you feel safe and you realize their feelings were really true.
2007-08-13 10:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by Seeking Intelligence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋