I never seem to have much fun im lucky if i go out once a month and thats with works people and as im shy dont always find them easy. I havent got many friends so dont even get to go out at the weekend. I see everyone talking bout their bfs and what/where theyre going at weekend and i just feell left out. I am 24 and feel ive missed a chunk of my life out
2007-08-06 19:52:23 · 13 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ignore all these "get off your lazy butt"-type comments as people don't often realise it's hard to get motivated when you're feeling down. What you need right now is encouragement, inspiration and positive thinking!
You're young even if you don't feel it- I'm 25 and still finding out who I am and what I want from life but it's all coming together. I've found confidence also comes from these things- from knowing what you want and how to get it, from realising what kind of people you like to hang out with, and which ones you should avoid etc.
If you're going to take up a new hobby, choose something you'll love and will be great at as this will give you confidence, or maybe go back to an old hobby (maybe you played the piano as a child) and get really good at it.
Don't worry too much about friendships right now- in a few years you may be surprised about the people who've ended up being long-term friends and the people you no longer speak to as friendships change all the time. I'm sure you'll make plenty of new friends in the next few years. Don't worry about boyfriends either- you'll meet one when you're not looking!
Good luck!
2007-08-06 22:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say im very much like you. I only have one friend, but thats all you need just now to change your life a little. Make a decision what you want to do, going clubbing etc and make a couple of plans with your friend to do it. The more you go out the more it will become easier.
At the end of the day you havent missed out on much, people go out, get drunk and make an ar*e of themselves. After a while it becomes a little boring...
2007-08-07 03:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still young, try changing job and then staying in contact with your old work colleges, try flirting or chatting on line to boost up your confidence with chatting to people, then you have many- activities to attend to when your not working, go to a singles bar to meet new people, don't be shy, continuing doing this you will not get far and could end up being very depressed, I do wish you luck and I'm sure you will meet many new friends in the near future and even maybe a boyfriend will come along too.
2007-08-07 03:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if u can catch a movie or lunch with one of ur friends once in a while. You could also volunteer with kids or adults. There are different types of volunteer organizations that allow u to spend time with ppl and do activities u can both enjoy.
You could also start going out with ur family members on the weekend. Concerts are also a nice way of getting out there and enjoying urself. Try catching a movie with one of ur friends now and then.
2007-08-07 03:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by ruby b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im shy to,but u ahve to be outgoing,and make ur self go up 2 ppl and say "hey". Just call somewon up 1 day and c if they want 2 hang out get coffee or something. If the don't be like ok well i guess we can go another time or soemthing. Do u know anybody who could be ur friend or is ur friend? Well cya
2007-08-07 02:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join some social clubs for young people. Join a gym, enrol dancing classes. You be surprise there are many people who are also shy like you. Only need one hello to get started. Its up to you to make your life better. Go out there and spend more time outside than inside.
2007-08-07 02:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by sexy-star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ones gonna come knocking at your door to change your life for the better,so get out there and grab every day with both hands like its your last.
Lifes too short not to.
2007-08-09 18:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is plenty of time to catch up u need to find out within yourself why u r so shy there is always an underlying reason.
2007-08-07 03:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we never meet again, what I have said will always remain,
WHAT YOU GIVE IS WHAT YOU GET.
Go and watch the film Dead Poet's Society. Make your life extraordinairy.
Read the book "Instant Confidence" by paul mckennna
also what you doin this weekend? lol
good luck
2007-08-07 03:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by Chriatian IV 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
joanne100!
From looking at your past questions it really doesn't look like you are finding the answers you want here, but I respect you for persevering!
Anyway, I read this on the Guardian website this morning and thought of you, perhaps mildly more high brow advice will be helpful?:
http://lifeandhealth.guardian.co.uk/privatelives/story/0,,2144766,00.html
2007-08-09 04:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋