need urgent help,its regarding my behavoiur, i want to change but i dont know how to go about it?

Question

it seems like i have closed my heart ,i feel that nobody likes me or wants to talk to me. not even my mother she talks to my sister for long time but does not talk to me.i dont know what it is, its like everybody expects that i should not get hurt and still dont say a thing.and even if they hurt me i should go to them and say sorry. my life looks miserable and i dont know what to do. its like i am left all alone and no body likes me.i feel lonely at times and cry my heart out when all by myself.i am a reserved person but i also feel like talking i dont know what to do.do i have to change

Answer 1

Your family probably has no idea you are feeling this way.
We(people) tend to keep to ourselves when we are hurting or when we think that Family/Friends are blowing us off. When in reality we are adding to the problem by not talking about what we are feeling.
I know its not easy but try your best to talk to your family or even write them a letter explaining how you feel.
Try to get involved in activities outside of the home.
Do anything to keep your mind occupied.
Take up a sport or do something that you love to do.

~faith

Answer 2

You should sit down with your mom and have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her how you feel inside.

I am not saying bash her for talking a long time to your sister. Don't even hit on that subject. That would just make you sound like you were jealous.

Your heart is not closed or you would not feel this innner pain that causes you to cry. You should take responsibility for how you treat people no matter what. That is part of being a good person and part of maturing. If you need to, sit down and write out what you need to say. What is in your heart and what is causing your pain, Go over it several times and then ask your mom if she can come talk with you privately.

Sometimes us Moms can be too cautious in a way. It is not that we do not care. It is that when teens (male and female) are going through puberty their emotions run high and low, we are not always sure if pushing for a long talk is better or might create more tension. We sometimes wait for our teens to give us a signal that they are ready to talk.

Let your mom have the signal by asking her for her help and advice. I am sure she be heart touched and would love to do what she can to help you through these feelings.

Don't be suprised if she gets a bit teary eyed or mushy, after all she is a mom. We are still teenagers at heart, we just have a lot more experience at it.

Answer 3

Yay for you! You took the first step in changing which is saying you want to. Next step is finding someone who knows about that particular behavior from experience. But it looks like other stuff going on too. As for your feelings, they matter! If you can't voice them to the people who hurt you, you can at least write it down. I feel ____ because ____. Would you consider ____? Then you can let them know this or talk to someone else about it just to get it out. Then...maybe write down your favorite things about yourself and nurture those parts of yourself, reading, walking, fishing, whatever...Love yourself, it's such a fun and cool thing to do and makes people curious as to why, they come around like pigeons in front of a fast food restaurant.

Answer 4

its not u who has 2 change sweety! i truly think its messed up that u have noone @ ur aid 2 comfort u , im sorry ! my name is laila and if u need anyone 2 talk 2 u can always message me

Answer 5

Write a letter to your mum explaining just how u feel. Tell her wat u told us give as much detail as u can. Any loving mum would be heart broken from hearing this and hopefully things will change.